I talked to my friends and my parents about my ex-wife's behavior when I was married.

I talk daily to an ex AP that I’ve known for over a decade about all kinds of things, including AP’s.

I have my circle of "bury a dead body" friends. I go to them with any problems. I know that they will be there for me while we work on issues. But also support me (and my marriage) when we get things back on track.

I typically don't, but I do have a best friend and a sister and I could talk with both of them. Neither of them like nearby, so it is mostly phone.

But I'd talk to them because both them them have MY back, not my husband's. And I have theirs. They can trust me to listen to them.

My childhood best friend with whom I’m still very close. She loves me and my DH but her loyalty is to me if issues were to arise. She lives in a different town and I trust her implicitly.

Talk to us. What’s the problem?

Op here: sorry about that! No affairs, just issues and autocorrect.

Wait - correction. I read the OP “affair” as an “issue”. If you and your SO are having issues, who do you discuss it with so that mutual friends and family don’t get slanted views.

Didn’t read it as who do you talk to about your AP.

OP - please clarify

Anonymous wrote:I read the OP as saying that one or both of them are married to someone else, so their relationship IS the affair.

+ 1.
I have a friend that I trust and could tell anything to. But if not...


I either talk about it online, or research my scenario online and see what other people have to say about similar situations. Quora is usually okay for this, or Reddit. Broader base than DCUM

Dcum!

I read the OP as saying that one or both of them are married to someone else, so their relationship IS the affair.

I am lost you are having an affair with your significant other? You both are having affairs? Your significant other is having an affair?

So you’re having an affair and need someone to talk to about it? Seems like this person you’re cheating with knows your family and friends?

Huh?

When your significant other and you are having an affair, who do you talk with about it? I don't want to talk to my family or friends that we have in common because I don't want to slant how they see him and I'm afraid expressing my feelings will come off as bad-mouthing him. Obviously a therapist would be best, but I don't have one. Any advice?