My son does this. I decided it’s his choice. He wants to boil...his choice. I understand that it’s like his safety blanket.

I used to do this because I was embarrassed of my developing boobs. Yes, I was really hot but I didn't know what else to do.

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Anonymous wrote:+ 1. I bought my tween girl some cute spots bras from Justice that she feel proud to wear under tank tops (with a little showing on the sides sometimes, which is in fashion). This is helping her feel proud to show her developing body and sends a message that there’s no reason to feel ashamed.

Ok, this just creeps me out. A little showing on the side? What?!

DP. A little bit of the sports bra. They're colorful/decorative, so it becomes a fashion accessory.

Anonymous wrote:+ 1. I bought my tween girl some cute spots bras from Justice that she feel proud to wear under tank tops (with a little showing on the sides sometimes, which is in fashion). This is helping her feel proud to show her developing body and sends a message that there’s no reason to feel ashamed.

Ok, this just creeps me out. A little showing on the side? What?!

+ 1. I bought my tween girl some cute spots bras from Justice that she feel proud to wear under tank tops (with a little showing on the sides sometimes, which is in fashion). This is helping her feel proud to show her developing body and sends a message that there’s no reason to feel ashamed.

Does she wear a bra? If it’s insecurity about developing, a comfy sports-style bra that’s a little minimizing might make her more comfortable.

Anonymous wrote:This is probably a reach but she’s not cutting, is she? That’s what springs to mind when I hear an insistence on long sleeves. Sorry if I’m out of line.

I had this thought as well. Hopefully it’s not the case, but I’d check to make sure.

Assuming it’s not, perhaps you could help her find some lightweight hoodies to put over t-shirts so it’s easier for her to put on and off as she wants it?

Thank you op, for caring and actually wanting to fix this. As an educator it drives me crazy when my students get sick (or just can’t focus!) because they aren’t dressed for the weather. We had kids come to school in sweatsuits in June and they would ask to go to the nurse because they felt sick from the heat. Also, lots of tears around recess times because they got so exhausted from the heat.

This is probably a reach but she’s not cutting, is she? That’s what springs to mind when I hear an insistence on long sleeves. Sorry if I’m out of line.

By the time my oldest daughter was three, I was making her BRING weather-appropriate clothing with her. If she chose not to wear it, that was on her.

These days she chooses what she wears and brings, and doesn't wear enough layers. I have banned her from complaining about being cold. I don't want to hear it.

Let her wear what she wants. Make sure she has plenty of water and access to shade. She will be fine.

My daughter does this to avoid creeping men. I understand her point so I won't force her to change. Would be great if she could wear a tank top or tshirt without getting leered at.

...and some have the reverse problem with kids sneaking out in shorts and flip flops during the polar vortex.

If you figure it out, let me know. I have the same problem.

Asking for suggestions on how to get my tween daughter to dress for the weather. She has been wearing sweatshirts and long sleeved shirts daily to camp where does outside activity half of the day. She came home pale, warm, and red faced yesterday and said she was feeling sick. Yet, she still dressed the same way today. She snuck the sweatshirt into her backpack. Asking her to research and write about risks of heat exhaustion. Any other parents had successful approaches to share? My guess she is trying to cover up her developing body. Would appreciate suggestions on alternatives to the obvious of removing sweatshirts and long sleeve shirts from the house.