Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. Huge family. We only do Christmas.

That's sort of weird. in my family birthdays are a huge deal and Christmas is smaller gifts. I've noticed that my inlaws are opposite. i don't receive a birthday gift from them but so many Christmas gifts.

NP. You're "sort of weird" for thinking anyone outside of your worldview is sort of weird.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. Huge family. We only do Christmas.

That's sort of weird. in my family birthdays are a huge deal and Christmas is smaller gifts. I've noticed that my inlaws are opposite. i don't receive a birthday gift from them but so many Christmas gifts.

It's weird that other families do things differently?

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. Huge family. We only do Christmas.

That's sort of weird. in my family birthdays are a huge deal and Christmas is smaller gifts. I've noticed that my inlaws are opposite. i don't receive a birthday gift from them but so many Christmas gifts.

Nothing anymore. When they were younger, I would get them a gift in the $25 range. Once they got older, it didn't seem right just to give them a gift card or money so we just send them a card now.

Are you local? How old are the kids? Younger kids value time and attention far more than gifts. Older kids start to value gifts more. $20-$100 depending on how close you are and your financial situation.

Nothing. Huge family. We only do Christmas.

I suck at being an aunt. I’m not close with my SIL at all nor her kids. But I for some reason am the only one in my marriage who seems to remember birthdays and to pick up holiday gifts.

So I show my love with gifts. I spend around $100 each holiday and have done personalized gifts (the custom books where the child is the main character, etc) or huge gift bags with tons of stuff.

I know it sounds ridiculous but I don’t want my nieces to think I don’t like them. It’s not that I don’t, it’s that my SIL doesn’t seem to have any interest in getting to know me so I try to spoil her kids whenever I can.

DH’s family pretty much does the equivalent of $50 for everyone, be it kids or adults. Not a big family so that’s fine. My family tends to do smaller amounts, more in the $25-30 range, so it’s always a bit tricky for me to strike the right balance.

It used to be something in the $50 range. Nephews are long distance and are 9 and 11 now. If we ever receive acknowledgment of gift, it's a preprinted/generic "thank you for the gift." My kids are younger, they've sent them things in the $25 range. All factors combined, we've dropped our budget.

I have 14 nieces and nephews. We do 20 dollar max. After the age of usually 9 or so they just want the 20 bucks which is fine. Christmas we draw names so I only have 4 to buy for (since each of my kids draw a name) and that is a 35 dollar max.

About $25, I think. One nephew always only wants money or things that cost $100, so I get him a gift card to a place I know he shops.

The others mention things they're interested in and let me shop. I spend more if I'm buying an actual present than a gift card, but I try not to splurge, because I don't want things to seem too unbalanced.

I think it depends how many you have. If you only have 2 versus if you have 10. $25-50 sounds nice.

We give $50 to our older niece and nephew (SIL's kids) because they never tell me what they want anymore, haha. When they were younger we'd spend anywhere from $30-50 on a gift depending what it was. My only sibling just had her first baby so we will probably do the same. It's unlikely we'd ever have more than 4 nieces/nephews total, if there were more we would probably spend less. My dad came from a big family and I had a lot of cousins on that side, so unless it was a "milestone" birthday, we typically only got actual gifts from godparents.

$25

Don’t back yourself into a gift amount that will likely have to grow or be paid out to many nieces and nephews. I start with $25 for beats. $50 for religious gifts, $250 for high school graduation. $300 for college.

Curious how much folks spend on Birthday gifts for nieces/nephews, particularly if just giving cash? Not always sure what is appropriate.