Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s secretly gay and wants your husband?

I have actually thought this for a second but don’t think this is it. DH is great and very likeable. That’s why I married him.

I know they went through a rough patch and were even separated for a while. They are in counseling now.

We are all early 40s. I know so many couples getting divorced.

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Anyone who suggests getting together after dinner is a no-go and would be laughed out of our lives. Drinks at 11pm??? He's a loser trying to relive his "glory" days.

What annoys me he will invite DH only to dinner during our few family dinner times during the week. DH always declines or suggests going out together or just come over and join us. DH goes to work at 6am so he doesn’t want to go out at 11 either.

So eventually if DH keeps declining, the invites will stop. Stay out of it. I fail to see how it affects you since your DH declines.

Maybe our family dynamics are just off. They have a nanny that is older and Spanish speaking. I tried doing play dates with nanny and it was awkward.

DH works a lot and wants to hang out with kids on weekends.

Maybe he’s secretly gay and wants your husband?

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Anonymous wrote:
Anyone who suggests getting together after dinner is a no-go and would be laughed out of our lives. Drinks at 11pm??? He's a loser trying to relive his "glory" days.

What annoys me he will invite DH only to dinner during our few family dinner times during the week. DH always declines or suggests going out together or just come over and join us. DH goes to work at 6am so he doesn’t want to go out at 11 either.

So eventually if DH keeps declining, the invites will stop. Stay out of it. I fail to see how it affects you since your DH declines.

People are getting weirdly worked up about the 11 pm thing. I wouldn’t leave the house that late on a weekday, but you’d think this guy asked OP’s DH to bury a body.

If DH does want to hang with this guy, but not at like 11 pm on a Tuesday, he should suggest a ball game or something. Or a show at 930 club on a weekend.

Unless he dislikes him? Not sure why it has to be all or nothing...

The drinks at 11pm would be a firm no-go for my husband. He will meet a guy friend for a cocktail after work sometimes - maybe once or twice a month.

But after dinner? No.

Anonymous wrote:
Anyone who suggests getting together after dinner is a no-go and would be laughed out of our lives. Drinks at 11pm??? He's a loser trying to relive his "glory" days.

What annoys me he will invite DH only to dinner during our few family dinner times during the week. DH always declines or suggests going out together or just come over and join us. DH goes to work at 6am so he doesn’t want to go out at 11 either.

Anonymous wrote:I could get past a lot of it a but drinks at 11 pm?! Run far and fast from
This one

The SAHM doesn’t have to run from it. The man doesn’t want to hang with her! It’s up to the husband really.

I could get past a lot of it a but drinks at 11 pm?! Run far and fast from
This one

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty normal for a parent to want to socialize with other adults, without their kids in tow. I know I do, and I’m a mom.

Of course. I love hanging out with my girlfriends.

This is a friend from school though. Our mutual connection is our child.

Chill out! No, I don’t think it’s weird this man doesn’t want to hang around his kids or your kids.

Anyone who suggests getting together after dinner is a no-go and would be laughed out of our lives. Drinks at 11pm??? He's a loser trying to relive his "glory" days.

I think it’s pretty normal for a parent to want to socialize with other adults, without their kids in tow. I know I do, and I’m a mom.

DS has a friend from preschool. Mom and I are friends. We both have 3 kids. Kids get along. Dads gets along. The other dad declines all family outings but constantly wants to go out with DH alone like for dinner and drinks. I feel somewhat insulted but then DH told me it is because he doesn’t like HIS wife and kids, not because of me and our kids.

DH has a very demanding job and has other friends and professional colleagues he hangs out with without the family. I’m a SAHM. They both work full time.

DH thinks this is more a guy thing because not all guys want to hang out with their families. I suggested at least take our kids from same preschool class and the other dad just isn’t interested. He would rather leave the kid at home. Then we will invite them over and he declined and will want to grab a drink at like 11pm with DH. Sorry, our day is over by then.

Do some dads just not do play dates or want to go out with their kids?