Why aren’t they getting married?

I worked in an Eastern European country for a long time and had an Embassy acquaintance who had many talks with women coming in to insist that their locally-born baby had been fathered by a visiting American (the alleged American father was never present). The Embassy would not get involved in this, and the baby was not registered as a US citizen. It doesn't work that way and there are too many people trying to game the system.

The baby will ONLY get citizenship if: the couple are married and living abroad, or the baby is born in the US, or the father is present in the country when the baby is born (and has proof of paternity).

Also, the father will have no rights at all if she gives birth overseas. No court is going to enforce visitation in another country.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The father’s right will depend heavily on the laws of that country, so no one here can tell you much on that.

What is your relationship to this whole scenario?

The host parent of the au pair ( not OP but im paying attention)

Then why is OP so invested in the father’s rights here?

Anonymous wrote:The father’s right will depend heavily on the laws of that country, so no one here can tell you much on that.

What is your relationship to this whole scenario?

The host parent of the au pair ( not OP but im paying attention)

Anonymous wrote:How will child have dual citizenship if baby is born overseas? The father would need to be named on the birth certificate and prove he is the father in order to get us citizenship. The father must have lived so many years as a minor and then over 18 in the us for the baby to get us citizenship if born overseas.

If the father is American, the child will get the citizenship of the mother in her home country, and then the father can submit the necessary documentation to get US citizenship as well.

The father’s right will depend heavily on the laws of that country, so no one here can tell you much on that.

What is your relationship to this whole scenario?

Does the mother want the father to be involved? From your post I’m assuming no, but it sounds like others are assuming yes.

If they don’t get married, the father will have zero rights when she goes back to her country. They should get married.

Why don’t they get married?
Either he wants to do the right thing, or not. Is he in college or working? Do his parents know? When is the baby due?
Unless she prefers not to marry him, and she marries someone in her home country.
I speak from experience. Even though I made the finances work for my single parenting, I do not recommend it. A child really does need two parents under the same roof. Believe me.

Dual citizenship is not the sure thing you’re making it out to be.

What’s your role? Is the girl your au pair? Are you the boy’s parent?

How will child have dual citizenship if baby is born overseas? The father would need to be named on the birth certificate and prove he is the father in order to get us citizenship. The father must have lived so many years as a minor and then over 18 in the us for the baby to get us citizenship if born overseas.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oooooh, au pair, not affair partner. Now I follow.

Aaahhh. Thank you.

Ha! I was also scratching my head at AP and father both being 20.

The easiest way to solve this is for them to get married.

Anonymous wrote:Oooooh, au pair, not affair partner. Now I follow.

Aaahhh. Thank you.

Oooooh, au pair, not affair partner. Now I follow.

AP has gotten pregnant while here and will be going home. She wants to come back and visit and the father wants to be involved. They are both 20 years old. What a nightmare. What rights does the father have out of the country? None, right? Child will have dual citizenship.