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Anonymous wrote:I have read several studies that lean toward this over the years. I believe it for the most part. Every older single woman I know is happy - they have no relationship complications; don’t have to take care of anyone but themselves; don’t have to worry about grown children or grandchildren.

Uh huh. You're not seeing the part where she weeps bitterly into her glass of cheap white wine, mourns the emptiness of her barren womb, and wonders where the years went.

Come on, PP. You should spend some time pondering why you need this woman to be sad and bitter in your mind and not pretend to know what is impossible for you to know.

Anonymous wrote:This is the cause of white population decline.

Now we just need brown to get down with childlessness and we might save the planet.

Happiness is a function not so much of our circumstances as of our perceptions.
Those who are happiest don't have this kind of house or this kind of income or this kind of career.
Those who are happiest aren't free from these kind of relationships or free from these kind of responsibilities or free from these kind of roles in their household.
No.
That's bullshit.
Those who are happiest choose to be happy.
Period.
They have struggles and stresses and problems and predicaments just like everyone else on the planet.
But they don't harp on it or let it hinder their outlook on and appreciation for life.
Period.

Anonymous wrote:This is the cause of white population decline.

And? I don't see this as a good or bad thing, just a neutral thing.

Yep, mom of 1 here, this makes sense. I have absolutely no evidence of this, but I'd imagine parents have more extreme highs and lows of emotions, but that on average, childless people are happier in their day to day lives.

Anonymous wrote:I have read several studies that lean toward this over the years. I believe it for the most part. Every older single woman I know is happy - they have no relationship complications; don’t have to take care of anyone but themselves; don’t have to worry about grown children or grandchildren.

My aunt is single by choice and she works a moderately low paying job she loves; has been to the Peace Corp twice and is signing up again when she turns 67; and has lots of friends and interests. She has no in-laws and few obligations. She has a life I envy at times.

Your aunt is cool! I envy her!

This is the cause of white population decline.

I’m 44, never married and no kids. I think I’m a lot happier than most of my friends because I don’t have relationship, kid or financial stress. I only have to worry about myself. I travel internationally 10x a year. Lately I’ve been asking myself if I’d regret my choices not to have a family when I’m 60, but for the moment (and the present moment is what matters) I am happy. I don’t need to find my purpose through a spouse or children.

I adore my husband, my children and now my grandchildren. I have a wonderful life and I can’t imagine it could have been better without them.

Anonymous wrote:I have read several studies that lean toward this over the years. I believe it for the most part. Every older single woman I know is happy - they have no relationship complications; don’t have to take care of anyone but themselves; don’t have to worry about grown children or grandchildren.

Uh huh. You're not seeing the part where she weeps bitterly into her glass of cheap white wine, mourns the emptiness of her barren womb, and wonders where the years went.

I love my child and she gives me purpose.
But sometime I think, “ I’ve committed myself to a lifetime of worry”
“I shall literally worry for the rest of my life.”

I have read several studies that lean toward this over the years. I believe it for the most part. Every older single woman I know is happy - they have no relationship complications; don’t have to take care of anyone but themselves; don’t have to worry about grown children or grandchildren.

My aunt is single by choice and she works a moderately low paying job she loves; has been to the Peace Corp twice and is signing up again when she turns 67; and has lots of friends and interests. She has no in-laws and few obligations. She has a life I envy at times.

I agree with the article but only if the woman is able to let go of the idea that she ought to be married or have kids. Once that belief is discarded she can probably be the happiest person in the world if she is making a decent living and doing exactly what she wants in life.

My thoughts are that I don't give a flying crap if Paul Dolan is a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics and I don't give a flying crap if he said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.

He still doesn't get to speak for ALL women or ANY women for that matter so he can stick his hypothesis up his ass.

[/url]https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert

Thoughts on this?