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Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Her position of power may well be through controlling and manipulating her family.

This is correct. They don’t have to be lawyers/senators/surgeons. Their fiefdom of manipulative terror can be their neighborhood block, their family, their church bible study, the PTA, etc. Ask me how I know, sigh.

Ok, this makes sense. So, how to deal? ...no matter what boundary or distance we set up, she finds a way to go around. It's very anxiety producing. And it's all the time. I actively avoid getting into anything with her...just refuse to, but that stokes the fire even more.

Anonymous wrote:Borderline personality disorder: abused kid grown up.

Well, she doesn't engage in risky behavior, self harm, and several other behaviors associated with BPD, but the boundary issues are there.

Borderline personality disorder: abused kid grown up.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Her position of power may well be through controlling and manipulating her family.

This is correct. They don’t have to be lawyers/senators/surgeons. Their fiefdom of manipulative terror can be their neighborhood block, their family, their church bible study, the PTA, etc. Ask me how I know, sigh.

Her refusal to spend time with anyone outside of the family is her way of ensuring she has power over those around her. She won't go anywhere she doesn't have control over.

Bingo.

I have a relative who is similar--not the same. This person is very social but finds conflict everywhere. I don't think she has a personality disorder -- she doesn't have a problem with boundaries or other qualities that I think are common in people with personality disorders. I do think that she is very depressed.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Her position of power may well be through controlling and manipulating her family.

Ugh, I hate family events...it's drama every time.

Hates themselves profoundly.

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Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Aspbergers

Narcissistic personality disorder

Does not socialize with others, only immediate family. Does not have friends, does not talk to other women in a social way, or manner no lunches, dinners with other women, phone chats
Married, but fights all the time in a bullying way
Claims to be an expert on just about everything from general information on the internet....medicine, disease, situations, politics, yet most of what she knows is false.
Gets into conspiracy theories heavily.
Becomes angry at people for misunderstandings, yells, hangs up phone, makes up scenarios that never happened, or twists things around, bullies
Plays the victim constantly
Highly critical of everyone
Is generally unhappy with lot in life- kind of believes in a zero sum game mentality

This has to be something, right? This is a relative of ours...middle aged woman. Yes, she grew up in a toxic environment. Yet, soooo tired of it.