Depend what you mean by 'start fires'. I'm female, btw. I used to play with fire in my room when I was bored. I had a plastic lap desk and would make little puddles of hair spray or nail polish remover and light them. Or drip candle wax/ light incense, etc. I was just bored. I never set any actual place or thing on fire, nor did I desire to. I'm probably lucky I didn't accidentally, though.
To me, setting fires is like purposely torching your neighbors old shed or otherwise doing it to be destructive in some way.