In general, I think it’s lame to sell hand me downs that you received for free. It’s counter to the entire spirit of giving friends/family handmedowns. That said, I agree with PPs who said maybe your friend really needs the money. You never know what’s going on with someone’s finances so just give them the benefit of the doubt. They also did you a favor by taking those items off your hands.

Yes, it is tacky.

Tacky.

What starts as a favor/pay it forward chain should continue on that way rather than being cashed in for personal profit.

I think it’s really tacky of you to hold onto some ownership of an item you GAVE away. I give away lots of old clothes, shoes, toys and furniture and I’m positive a lot of it will be sold off and I don’t care because I was the one without the inclination to sell the items but others are. If you were so attached you should have kept those items or done the annoying “lending not giving”. I love when people pass on things to me but if they are lending I don’t accept because my kids and washing habits are rough on clothes. They hand them down when they otherwise would have gone to goodwill but I take the clothes there after anyway or hand them down again. I wouldn’t feel guilty if I had the desire to sell them but that’s something I’ve never been into.

Once you gifted th clothing to her what she did with them was up to her.

They are now her belongings

But yes, it’s tacky lol

Anonymous wrote:While you don't have any "right" to it, I think it's really tacky and would definitely color my opinion of the person I gave it to.

+1

I think if she'd done it before letting her own daughter wear it then it would be tacky but if its been though her kids then whatever. I certainly don't have the patience to list and sell all my kid's old clothes. Power to her.

I would also say that the kind of person that accepts and uses tubs of hand me downs and ALSO puts the effort into cleaning, taking pictures and selling the clothes likely is doing so because their family will meaningfully benefit from that work and I would not begrudge that at all.

I'm lucky enough to make enough money that the LOE to sell all those clothes is not worth the return on the investment. For her it is, I'd be happy the clothes are helping her family in two ways.

While you don't have any "right" to it, I think it's really tacky and would definitely color my opinion of the person I gave it to.

If you give something away, it is no longer yours.

It’s poor form. When I am done with things I was gifted I have sent a note to tell them that I donated to another family or what charity I chose. I sold some things once and I sent the family a gift card to a store that sells kids clothes similar to the ones they gave me - but in the sizes their kids currently wear.

It’s tacky of your friend.

Anonymous wrote:No, if you wanted it back you should have told her.

This.

If you wanted to make money on it, you should have sold it yourself. Since you were happy to give it away, just be happy it's going to all end up in another home to be used instead of in a land fill.

No. You could have told her you wanted it back. You didn't.

Once you give someone something it's theirs to do whatever they want.

No, if you wanted it back you should have told her.

I gifted a friend of my tubs and tubs of little girl clothing from new born to 2 T.
We are done having kids and my 2nd is a boy so i had no need for the clothing.
Well, she is finished having kids now too and her youngest girl is turning 3 this summer.
I see on Facebook she is selling her daughter's clothing (the stuff i gave her) and almost all has sold. All were in great condition when i gave it to her and they still look to be in good condition. She is set to make a few hundred bucks total between the clothing and the supplies (swing, changing pad, etc) that i gave her.

When i gave it to her i didn't say i wanted it back, but we never really talked about it. I don't really want the stuff back, but isn't it tacky to sell everything I GAVE her without even asking if i want it back or what to do with it?

Just curious.