Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:52
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Did you tell her NOT to go there? Did you ask her and she had said they hadn't?
What you are describing isn't lying.
What you are describing isn't lying.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:51
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you tell her it wasn't ok to go there? Why don't you want him there?
+1 If you didn't explicitly tell her not to do this, I wouldn't think the nanny had done something particularly wrong. If you didn't, move on OP. And anyway, presumably your nanny has newer references than you by now, so trying to destroy her career now, isn't particularly efficient.
OP says her last day was just a couple of weeks ago. I still think OP should leave it alone though. Needlessly vindictive over nothing. She never says the nanny did anything wrong with respect to taking care of the child.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:51
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you upset about this? You trust the nanny to take care of you kid but not take the kid to her house?
Although I think the OP is overreacting and wasting her energy, I think ideally the nanny should ask for permission when taking kids to places outside of the ordinary routine. My nanny takes my kids to her home 2-3x a year, and always asks first. You would want to ensure that it's a safe place for kids etc.
If my nanny can’t independently figure out what is or isn’t a safe place we have bigger problems.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:50
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Anonymous wrote:Why are you upset about this? You trust the nanny to take care of you kid but not take the kid to her house?
Although I think the OP is overreacting and wasting her energy, I think ideally the nanny should ask for permission when taking kids to places outside of the ordinary routine. My nanny takes my kids to her home 2-3x a year, and always asks first. You would want to ensure that it's a safe place for kids etc.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:47
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Anonymous wrote:I just found out our former nanny of 3 years lied to us. On her last day (a couple weeks ago) she put together one of those snapfish type photo albums and gave it to my son as a goodbye gift. I was flipping through it today and noticed there were several pictures of her and my son at her apartment eating lunch - she never told me or asked me if it was ok to do this by the way. I asked my son about it and he said that they only went there a few times but I don't know how much I can trust the memory of a 3 year old. I'm pretty upset over this and want to confront her, but my husband thinks it's useless to at this point. If another family calls us for a referral though, my husband thinks it would be good for us to tell them the truth about what happened.
What would you do? Let it go or say something?
You sound unhinged.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:45
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Why are you upset about this? You trust the nanny to take care of you kid but not take the kid to her house?
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:45
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Anonymous wrote:Did you tell her it wasn't ok to go there? Why don't you want him there?
+1 If you didn't explicitly tell her not to do this, I wouldn't think the nanny had done something particularly wrong. If you didn't, move on OP. And anyway, presumably your nanny has newer references than you by now, so trying to destroy her career now, isn't particularly efficient.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:43
Subject: Re:WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Presumably, if she gave you a photo album with the activity then she thought it was okay with you.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:41
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
She didn't lie to you unless you asked her about it and she said no. Let it go. What would be the point of a confrontation now?
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:37
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Did you tell her it wasn't ok to go there? Why don't you want him there?
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:37
Subject: Re:WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Anonymous wrote:Let it go.
Your real problem is not that the nanny lied but that a nanny is raising your kid. Make peace with it.
Right. She’s not mad the kid was at an apartment (why would she be?) but that she wasn’t micromanaging every move and the nanny exercised independent judgment.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:36
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
I do think it's useless at this point. Whether I'd tell those looking for a reference would depend. Was she forbidden from taking him there? Did she generally have permission to take him out and about? Did she break rules about what he is supposed to eat? While I wouldn't be too happy, there's a difference between her failing to mention it and breaking specific rules.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:36
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
So you never said it wasn’t okay? Why would she suspect she couldn’t bring him to her house for lunch? I think you will sound insane if you confront her now and even more insane if you tell a future family this story.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:36
Subject: Re:WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
Let it go.
Your real problem is not that the nanny lied but that a nanny is raising your kid. Make peace with it.
Your real problem is not that the nanny lied but that a nanny is raising your kid. Make peace with it.
Anonymous
06/03/2019 10:32
Subject: WWYD if you found out former nanny lied to you
I just found out our former nanny of 3 years lied to us. On her last day (a couple weeks ago) she put together one of those snapfish type photo albums and gave it to my son as a goodbye gift. I was flipping through it today and noticed there were several pictures of her and my son at her apartment eating lunch - she never told me or asked me if it was ok to do this by the way. I asked my son about it and he said that they only went there a few times but I don't know how much I can trust the memory of a 3 year old. I'm pretty upset over this and want to confront her, but my husband thinks it's useless to at this point. If another family calls us for a referral though, my husband thinks it would be good for us to tell them the truth about what happened.
What would you do? Let it go or say something?
What would you do? Let it go or say something?