text them! whats the worst that could happen?

This is our first year in travel. When we get an offer (which the coach has told us we almost certainly will from our current level team, but not a higher one), is it bad form to text DS's friends to see if they are also staying on the team? That would affect whether he wants to do another year of travel (as I refuse to drive him elsewhere to play for another club).

Anonymous wrote:Although some parents do get delusional thinking their kid still should stay at highest level. I know in our team there will be few that likely won't be offered. It will upset them, but at the end of the day, their kids are just NOT good. They have not improved in over a year. It sticks out like a sore thumb in every game. If these parents can't tell that their kid is struggling, then they really need to check themselves. Either they are high on something or don't know soccer.

That doesn't mean they can't be disappointed. Its one thing to get a decision after a season is done. Its another to be told you are being kicked off a team and then have to keep playing on it for several weeks.

Anonymous wrote:Although some parents do get delusional thinking their kid still should stay at highest level. I know in our team there will be few that likely won't be offered. It will upset them, but at the end of the day, their kids are just NOT good. They have not improved in over a year. It sticks out like a sore thumb in every game. If these parents can't tell that their kid is struggling, then they really need to check themselves. Either they are high on something or don't know soccer.

This may be true but it isn't really fare either. Every parent here, including you, has an elevated opinion of their child and soccer is no different.

Although some parents do get delusional thinking their kid still should stay at highest level. I know in our team there will be few that likely won't be offered. It will upset them, but at the end of the day, their kids are just NOT good. They have not improved in over a year. It sticks out like a sore thumb in every game. If these parents can't tell that their kid is struggling, then they really need to check themselves. Either they are high on something or don't know soccer.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - The June games are the worst too. Half the team is pissed off for one reason or another, others are checked out or trying not to brag, and a few are on vacation. The season should end in April.

This year almost all of our games are between now and June 9th. We have 2 games (sat and suns) many weekends because of the weather cancellations and the later start because of a late Spring break/Easter.

It sucks knowing half of the kids are on their way out. It takes away from the Spring Season.

I think it should be mandated that tryouts can't happen until after memorial day. period.

Agree on tryouts not happening until after memorial day. Not only are you dealing with tryouts, clubs dont host practices during that time (tryouts in lieu of practice) and there are games and usually a final tournament on the schedule. Thats what bugs me the most. They keep moving tryouts back to get players locked in before other club tryouts.

Anonymous wrote:OP - The June games are the worst too. Half the team is pissed off for one reason or another, others are checked out or trying not to brag, and a few are on vacation. The season should end in April.

This year almost all of our games are between now and June 9th. We have 2 games (sat and suns) many weekends because of the weather cancellations and the later start because of a late Spring break/Easter.

It sucks knowing half of the kids are on their way out. It takes away from the Spring Season.

I think it should be mandated that tryouts can't happen until after memorial day. period.

I'm sure if you texted them, they would respond.

Is what you want for gossip and feeling like you have the information?

Not sharing indiscriminately is not juvenile at all, it's a practical approach for mental/emotional survival. That's not juvenile, it's actually sounds pretty mature.

Since, unfortunately, we have a petty and vindictive system that often responds poorly and demonstrates bad actors at more turns than good, it's not hard to decide to not indiscriminately share.

But I'm sure they'll respond to a question that asks how they are doing, give it a try.

It is rather funny, because you can read it on the faces of the parents. all the sudden, johnny isn't at a few of the practices.

I hate May in soccer. I always find later in the month gets awkward with some returning players having offers before others and then some families being upset about results but stuck finishing out the season. This year will be particularly trying for us as it’s become apparent that DS’s coach doesn’t want to keep him and we will have to muddle through the end of the season. Fortunately we do have nice parents on the team who aren’t hush hush about other tryouts and a few have shared good suggestions with us.

Anonymous wrote:OP - The June games are the worst too. Half the team is pissed off for one reason or another, others are checked out or trying not to brag, and a few are on vacation. The season should end in April.

Or tryouts should occur only after the season ends. That seems a little more logical, at least to me.

OP - The June games are the worst too. Half the team is pissed off for one reason or another, others are checked out or trying not to brag, and a few are on vacation. The season should end in April.

We are staying where we are so nothing to report.

I think it's been a particularly crazy spring with mergers, splits, da drops, etc. that people are just too busy trying to figure it all out---and of course spending evenings driving around to tryouts.

From experience, the drama starts to pick up at the end of the month when people get pissed their kid didn't make a team and somebody they think shouldn't have didn't---or their kid made the bestest, best team ever and they want to come on and gloat and put every other place down. Fairly predictable.

Anonymous wrote:Basically all of our soccer friends go radio silent during the entire try-out month because everyone is figuring out where to land for next year and no one wants to discuss it with other families.

Cannot wait until June and we can all announce our decisions and be friends again.

It’s like a bunch of juveniles at Middle School recess

Basically all of our soccer friends go radio silent during the entire try-out month because everyone is figuring out where to land for next year and no one wants to discuss it with other families.

Cannot wait until June and we can all announce our decisions and be friends again.