There is a woman who attended a church we used to go to (before we left because it was too darn conservative) who divorced her husband. I know her well enough to have stayed in touch over Facebook (we socialized as couples a few times a long time ago). She has a boyfriend who she sappily gushes over on Facebook. They haven't married and I've wondered if he was her AP. She comes across as a bit desperate to prove that they are still together and do fun and wonderful adventures together (yoga, hiking vacations, etc.). I find myself cringing but then I remind myself that they might (just might) be true soul-mates and if so, I'd be very happy for her. But in the meantime, it's still cringe-worthy...

If it makes their wives happy, that's what matters. Its not for me so thankfully DH doesn't do it. I do know a decent number of people who are posting all over FB but really ha e marriage issues.

Cheesy

Marriage problems

Anonymous wrote:I don't find it effeminate - I find it fake. And I don't think they're more likely to be cheated on - but more likely the ones doing the cheating.

People with healthy, loving, stable relationships, don't need public validation (and that's all social media is - seeking validation).

I completely agree with this. The couples that proclaim their love the loudest are in trouble.

Their wives ask them to do it

Anonymous wrote:I think those husbands are often putting on a show — and are cheating. I know a real-life example of this. They are often overcompensating.

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Liars

Are you sure it is really them posting it, and if it IS them, is it the wife they are talking about? Could it be someone else posted it, or that the person you think it is a case of mistaken identification?

I don’t find it effeminate. My DH and I aren’t really into FB, but I occasionally see really sweet posts from male friends and relatives to their wives or long time girlfriends. If anything, I think those are men who are secure in their masculinity and emotionally healthy. Don’t get it twisted: I’m not looking for this from DH. He does write private love letters though.

Anonymous wrote:Am I alone in finding this extremely effeminate? Perhaps I'm biased because my husband and I don't post much, but I'm not bothered by female friends who go on and on about their amazing husband. But when men do it, I do sort of cringe. It's just not manly, to me. Why are you telling the world these things? Just tell her. And this is a terrible thought, but I suspect the men who do this are more likely to be cheated on.

I don't care what they post. I just don't care. Same old same old for me... if it bothers you, why are you looking at it. Scroll on grasshopper, scroll on...

I think those husbands are often putting on a show — and are cheating. I know a real-life example of this. They are often overcompensating.

I don't find it effeminate - I find it fake. And I don't think they're more likely to be cheated on - but more likely the ones doing the cheating.

People with healthy, loving, stable relationships, don't need public validation (and that's all social media is - seeking validation).

Ugh you need to examine yourself. I dislike sappy public displays of affection on social media but not due to gender.

Am I alone in finding this extremely effeminate? Perhaps I'm biased because my husband and I don't post much, but I'm not bothered by female friends who go on and on about their amazing husband. But when men do it, I do sort of cringe. It's just not manly, to me. Why are you telling the world these things? Just tell her. And this is a terrible thought, but I suspect the men who do this are more likely to be cheated on.