Anonymous wrote:I am one and done and have thought about this endlessly bc I can v much relate to your post.
In the end my reasons for wanting to have a second were all based in fear. What if my child dies? What if he’s alone when we’re dead? What if what if what if! It was all fear based. And as a rule I don’t make life choices out of being scared. A second would be from a place of negatives, not of excitement. So we’re done.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You could be me. I have a second. It sucks for now. My first is a very difficult child, which probably doesn't help
But when does it stop sucking?
Anonymous wrote:You could be me. I have a second. It sucks for now. My first is a very difficult child, which probably doesn't help
Anonymous wrote:Stop at 1. I have two kids and of course I love them both but the others are right. With one you can trade off with a spouse but with two it is non stop. DH and I have two difficult elementary school age kids, which is supposed to be the golden time and we were joking today about how we might go to prison to escape parenting. There is just no more down time. I should have stopped at one. Every family is different but in general more of something that isn’t making you happy will not make you happier.