OP here.

We went on several dates before. The content of his comment does not matter - it probably doesn't hurt others but it hurts me. The heart of why I'm mad is that he appeared caring and romantic and he just switched right after. I wouldn't have taken offense if his intention was clear from the beginning but the switch is a bit ugly.

He wasn't ghosting yet as he followed up and asked why I didn't respond. I haven't said anything yet as I needed to calm down.

My question is just that since we went on several dates, does he deserve an explanation or is it not too bad to ghost?

Anonymous wrote:

Is it better to just ghost him (dont want more hurt) or would you be honest and tell him that comment really offends me? He probably doesnt care

I think your instincts are right - you care about him more that he cares about you and chances are he is about to ghost.
There's really nothing to talk about. You'll just get more humiliated and sad. He already knows his comment offended you. A man who is into you would immediately make sure you know he cares. Especially after sleeping together. When someone is into you, you'll know, there will be no doubt.

Ghost and delete!

+1 Yes, this is right.

Is it better to just ghost him (dont want more hurt) or would you be honest and tell him that comment really offends me? He probably doesnt care

I think your instincts are right - you care about him more that he cares about you and chances are he is about to ghost.
There's really nothing to talk about. You'll just get more humiliated and sad. He already knows his comment offended you. A man who is into you would immediately make sure you know he cares. Especially after sleeping together. When someone is into you, you'll know, there will be no doubt.

Ghost and delete!

Sounds like he'd love a two-way ghosting.

OP, please tell what is SP?

Anonymous wrote:SP?

Sexual partner maybe.

SP?

Anonymous wrote:Is it bad to just ghost my SP? We dated a bit before sleeping together. Once although we had plans for more. But then my hormones got the better of me and I went crazy on him. He lashed back with an overly honest comment that I couldn't take. Is it better to just ghost him (dont want more hurt) or would you be honest and tell him that comment really offends me? He probably doesnt care

You dated a bit before sleeping together once, or you went on one date before sleeping together?

And why are you asking if it’s okay to ghost someone who doesn’t care? Your language is more dramatic than the situation warrants.

It’s still not clear why you are saying you “went crazy on him” simply because you asked him about his feelings and where he stood. Is it because you had been dating such a short time and barely knew each other? Also — what do you mean by “lashed out”? What exactly did he say? If it was anything hurtful then you shouldn’t bother contacting him again unless you are only doing it for your own closure and truly have no expectation of a response. But “lashed out” usually refers to an angry, hurtful statement so i imagine he isn’t worth a second thought; be thankful he showed his true colors early on.

OP, you want to ghost him because a: you were embarrassed by what you said about your feelings? or b: you went crazy sexually on him?, or c: he ghosted you, or d: the comments he made?

OP here.

I asked him if he had feelings for me so it was not anything offensive. I just felt crazy at that point because he was acting romantic before and he showed his real colors and intention after the sex. I did regret asking and it was crazy I did but I dont think it was something I need to apologize?

if you lashed out and went crazy on him, you probably got what you deserved when he lashed back. If you can't take it, don't dish it out. Apologize, then go your separate ways.

What is an SP?

Is it bad to just ghost my SP? We dated a bit before sleeping together. Once although we had plans for more. But then my hormones got the better of me and I went crazy on him. He lashed back with an overly honest comment that I couldn't take. Is it better to just ghost him (dont want more hurt) or would you be honest and tell him that comment really offends me? He probably doesnt care