Anonymous wrote:Many 50 yeard old men are not FWB material.

Many 50+ women are fat, sagging, wrinkled, not worth FWB.

Or they want a nurse with a purse.

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because most of the older divorced guys I know are looking to remarry immediately so they have someone to tale care of them.

The two stupid DCUM tropes about divorced older men
1 They only want sex
2 They only want a caretaker

Men have learned that saying upfront that they just want sex doesn't work for the women they want to just have sex with. They don't want to just have sex with women who just want to have sex, that would be too easy, they want to have sex with women who like them and envision more of a relationship so they can get some benefits outside of just sex.

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny because most of the older divorced guys I know are looking to remarry immediately so they have someone to tale care of them.

No that’s the older women. They really want a husband. You are clueless if you think otherwise.

I'm 57, divorced and the other divorced guys I know are not interested in just sex though it is a priority. I enjoy female companionship for many reasons but I'm not interested in living with someone or getting married. I really enjoy my freedom but if the right person came into my life my attitude could change. Pay for sex? You've got to be kidding when there are plenty of women out there.

Anonymous wrote:Why do women ask why men don’t buy sex? Prostitution is illegal, dangerous for all concerned, people involved can be trafficked or on drugs...even if you just want FWB there are a million reasons never to buy sex

It is in one state. There should be something to meet their needs other than deceptive behavior.

Why do women ask why men don’t buy sex? Prostitution is illegal, dangerous for all concerned, people involved can be trafficked or on drugs...even if you just want FWB there are a million reasons never to buy sex

Many 50 yeard old men are not FWB material.

Anonymous wrote:Many older men who have divorced after long marriages are reluctant to marry again. I get that. Many seem to want sex only relationships after years of bickering, compromising, and general marital turmoil. I get it.

Why do you try to date again after marriage instead of paying for sex (in a place where it is legal), or being upfront about nsa relationships?

Many older women are done with raising kids, are self sufficient and don’t want to be encumbered with any responsibility for another person. Plus they set a very high bar for what they consider to be a long term ‘partner’. Plus for them it’s a ‘buyers’ market. Why would a guy have an expectation of something more than fwb?

I find they fall into general categories. First, you have the divorced 50+ year olds with DCs under the age of 6 and want someone to help raise their kids or just have little to give because they need to take care of small DCs...I take a hard pass on these as I am done with small children. Second, you have the ones that are IMHO are just weak and/or have a negative outlook...bitter about their lot in life, their exes, their children, their career, etc. These also get a hard pass. Third, you have the players...I’ll date them knowing it’s nothing serious and I’ll also lump in the narcissistic types who are not relationship material. Fourth, you have nice guys who got married young or they just were not compatible with their first wives or are widowers but there is no chemistry...I’ll date until I can ascertain if their is chemistry and then part ways (some have stayed friends). At this stage in my life...I am active, fit, fun, adventurous, done with kids, financially secure and want serious chemistry....if I never find that Unicorn...I am okay with that but I am not settling.

If being up front about just wanting to sex worked don't you think we'd be doing that OP? We're not as dumb as you think we are.

If all you want is sex it's better to date married men because the divorced ones have a lot of emotional baggage.

It’s funny because most of the older divorced guys I know are looking to remarry immediately so they have someone to tale care of them.

Many older men who have divorced after long marriages are reluctant to marry again. I get that. Many seem to want sex only relationships after years of bickering, compromising, and general marital turmoil. I get it.

Why do you try to date again after marriage instead of paying for sex (in a place where it is legal), or being upfront about nsa relationships?