I can't imagine. I'm sorry just no. My in laws are arriving tomorrow and I can't even function today I hate it so much. They are only coming for 4 or 5 days (I think). I don't know how long because it would be considered rude to ask how long they will visit. Oh if I tell them we are on vacation (as we were this week) and to arrive on Saturday, well then they will be mad. And arrive irritated. Yay. Fun visit huh?

They wouldn’t. My mom happily spends her money on trips, Church, destitute relatives. She’s not moving in with me if she spends all her money. She can learn to live within her means.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL moved in for a few months... but then she started driving DH nuts and he moved her into a condo.

The key was for me to sit back and let him take care of her incessant demands instead of leaping into action myself.

But what if your husband hadn't gotten sick of it? What if he was fine with it, and your home life consisted of your MIL trying to rule the roost and your DH jumping to her every demand, while you sat on the sidelines? For the next decade?

Something tells me that the poster would then realize she has a husband problem and would address it. If it came down to the husband deferring to his mother in their “roost,” my guess is that she would have no trouble leaving that roost. There’s no way a decade would go by for that to happen. A year tops.

I could not, would not ever do this. Thankfully DH agrees.

NP. Complete disaster. In laws asked us to move into one of their houses, then expected us to treat it like a museum. I mean, they got upset when I moved the coffee machine to a different counter.

We moved back out within 6 months and are completely estranged. Worst mistake of my life.

Anonymous wrote:My MIL moved in for a few months... but then she started driving DH nuts and he moved her into a condo.

The key was for me to sit back and let him take care of her incessant demands instead of leaping into action myself.

But what if your husband hadn't gotten sick of it? What if he was fine with it, and your home life consisted of your MIL trying to rule the roost and your DH jumping to her every demand, while you sat on the sidelines? For the next decade?

If I were unsympathetic and didn't think I could live happily with them in my house for whatever reason- I wouldn't allow them to move in. I'm not a martyr, I would refuse to share a home with people i didn't like or respect or who made my life difficult especially while trying to raise children and be a good parent and a good spouse.

Anonymous wrote:My MIL moved in for a few months... but then she started driving DH nuts and he moved her into a condo.

The key was for me to sit back and let him take care of her incessant demands instead of leaping into action myself.

You are a wise woman. Many could learn from your example.

My MIL moved in for a few months... but then she started driving DH nuts and he moved her into a condo.

The key was for me to sit back and let him take care of her incessant demands instead of leaping into action myself.

So they literally cannot afford a 1-bedroom apartment somewhere? The only option is to move in with you?

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Anonymous wrote:It has completely and totally destroyed our marriage. Our kids 6 and 4 don't want anything to do with the grandparents any more.

What did the grandparents do? Leave mess, walk around in their underwear, fry fish, sleep on the couch?

Literally laughed out loud. Your in laws sound like mine.

Anonymous wrote:especially if you were unsympathetic (i.e. they spent all their earnings on expensive cars/supporting others except their own children, etc...).

Are you kidding?! Total recipe for disaster.

Anonymous wrote:It has completely and totally destroyed our marriage. Our kids 6 and 4 don't want anything to do with the grandparents any more.

What did the grandparents do? Leave mess, walk around in their underwear, fry fish, sleep on the couch?

It has completely and totally destroyed our marriage. Our kids 6 and 4 don't want anything to do with the grandparents any more.

especially if you were unsympathetic (i.e. they spent all their earnings on expensive cars/supporting others except their own children, etc...).