Anonymous wrote:A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

So what does that make your blackmailing friend?

None of this is your business, but if you want to make it your business, go ahead and tell the wife or the husband or the husband and the wife what you saw. Good luck!

A guy I went to college with saw a married female colleague leaving a hotel room that wasn't hers while they were on a conference trip.

He jokingly told her he'd tell her husband if she didn't give him a BJ.

She actually gave him one. He said he felt pretty bad about it but it was obvious that she was pretty much a tramp.

OP you need to take responsibility for having seen this and get involved. You cannot just sit back and let others get away with immoral acts it is your moral and civic duty to intervene whenever possible to keep others on the straight and narrow. Not only is their marriage at stake but the plight of your respective children is at stake. A secret affair could potentially result in a messy divorce and have that kid your child plays with plunging down an emotional spiral of fear, anger, resentment, and depression that could potentially impact your child. You absolutely have to do something immediately!

Anonymous wrote:OP here - forgot to mention that our kids play together. I'm spooked by the thought of future play-dates .

You'd better watch out. You might catch whoreness

Anonymous wrote:I saw this once too.
Of course, I didn't say anything - I am also not close friends, but found out later that the couple if proudly out as polyamorous. So ... stay out of it.

I'm the one who said I'd tell the wife if the husband didn't within 48 hours. If I found this out, I'd just laugh it off. "Whew, so glad you two are okay - shall we never speak of this again?" and then I'd never bring it up again.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do a damn thing because none of that is my business.

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+1. Unless I was friends with her and already knew or could tactfully scope out whether she wanted to know, I wouldn’t say anything.

OP here - forgot to mention that our kids play together. I'm spooked by the thought of future play-dates .

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do a damn thing because none of that is my business.

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Why would you not tell her? Wouldn’t you want to know if you were in her shoes?

I saw this once too.
Of course, I didn't say anything - I am also not close friends, but found out later that the couple if proudly out as polyamorous. So ... stay out of it.

I would go up to the guy and say "I saw you kissing that woman at the store today. If you don't tell your wife within 48 hours, I will."

I view it as a health issue.

I wouldn't do a damn thing because none of that is my business.

I was leaving the grocery store today and while getting in my car saw my neighbor kissing and hugging a woman who wasn't his wife across the parking lot. His wife is friendly with me but we aren't close. I am so conflicted and wondering WWYD if you were in my shoes?