Have any funeral arrangements been made? Will other family members also have to travel once the funeral is set? Sometimes, with older people, funerals are scheduled a week or so after death so families can work out their schedules/flights etc.

In my family, we would go with everyone's encouragement and blessing.

+1 on the travel insurance; I'd at least look into it.

You know your family and what you need to do. Do you need to cancel and be with everyone for support? Do it if none of you are going to enjoy the vacation anyway. Do you believe in celebrating life and you can remember him anywhere? Then go and have an informal memorial service for him with just your family on the beach.

*Most but not all travel insurance policies don’t cover a family members death or canceling a vacation for no reason. Most cover the traveler if he’s sick plus it covers things like strikes, acts of terrorism and such. Read what’s covered, you’ll be surprised. The policies that allow you to cancel for any reason are simply to expensive.

Go on the trip and deal with it after, your husband being there probably won’t make a difference any way. Unfortunately all of us deal with this issue at some point. Going on this vacation doesn’t make you the bad relative.

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Anonymous wrote:Get travel insurance now. It’s not too late.

hum, no, it is too late. Easter is in two weeks and the family member is on his death bed. if they bought travel insurance when they got the tickets, they might be covered, they should read the contract. if they did not, now is just to late. you cannot buy insurance when you need it

Last fall I was offered travel insurance by Delta the day before my flight while chrcking in online, after I had declined to purchase it when I bought the tickets. And then I used it when my flight was delayed and I missed my connection. It was with alliance (spelling?). So there you go.

Ask the closest survivors what support they want/expect from your family. Start checking the fine print about rescheduling.

Anonymous wrote:You go visit now and then enjoy your vacation. Once someone is dead its not as important as when they are alive.

+1

If your DH has otherwise had a good connection with him, that's the most important thing. What does his parent whose parent the grandfather is want as far as support?

You go visit now and then enjoy your vacation. Once someone is dead its not as important as when they are alive.

How does your DH feel about it? Does he not want to be with his grandpa before he passes?

Anonymous wrote:Get travel insurance now. It’s not too late.

hum, no, it is too late. Easter is in two weeks and the family member is on his death bed. if they bought travel insurance when they got the tickets, they might be covered, they should read the contract. if they did not, now is just to late. you cannot buy insurance when you need it

Get travel insurance now. It’s not too late.

This happened to my mom (with her mother) while we all went on vacation. Mom, who was the primary caregiver, arranged with her sisters that they just hold any information about Grandma until after her vacation. It might have been easier because we were on a cruise. Turns out grandma passed away hours before we returned back from the cruise.


If you're in one place and can be reached, just go. Decide what you'll do when you have to make that decision.

Hope you all get a nice vacation.

Take each day as it comes. Go on the trip and if something happens with DH's grandfather, be prepared for him to come back early or go to wherever he's needed. I would just look into the possible arrangements you may need from that location.

We’ve had these non-refundable airfare and all-inclusive reservations for quite some time, for Easter break. DHs grandfather is quite sick, and it’s entirely possible he may pass while we are gone. He may pass before then, of course, or even after. In the event he passes while we are away, what should we do?

Should just DH return home to offer support to his family? Should all of us return? Should we stay put since arrangements will need to be made anyway?

His grandfather is too sickly to give his own wishes. His passing is expected, but will be sad for the family nonetheless.