Anonymous
Post 04/04/2019 10:03     Subject: your thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:OP, please get some help for anxiety. If the other girl didn't wear the outfit, what could possibly happen?



The other girl did wear the outfit and I probably do have anxiety.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2019 06:12     Subject: your thoughts?
OP, please get some help for anxiety. If the other girl didn't wear the outfit, what could possibly happen?
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 17:03     Subject: your thoughts?
I think you have WAY too much time on your hands.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 13:36     Subject: your thoughts?
OP, for things that make you uncomfortable, though you don't know exactly why ... let your DD "pull it together" or not. It happens or it doesn't. It's on her.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 12:25     Subject: Re:your thoughts?
Two friends coordinating outfits sounds harmless to me. I do remember back in grade 5 when all the girls in the class coordinated wearing dresses one day leaving just 2 excluded. The other girl and I became friends that day. I learned that those I thought were my dearest friends could be easily swayed.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 12:16     Subject: your thoughts?
I don’t understand: what bad thing happens if the other girl doesn’t wear the outfit? How would your DD not wearing the outfit have addressed the problem?
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 12:14     Subject: your thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My thoughts - you cannot protect your child from every stupid disappointment in life. If you cared enough about this to post it, I can tell you right now that your child will be poorly equipped to handle adversity in the future.


A bit harsh, but I had similar thoughts. Plus, I just don't understand the logic. Your child wants to wear a certain, perfectly normal, outfit in order to match with her friend. You are worried that the friend might not wear the outfit, too, thus disappointing your child. In order to prevent this minor disappointment, you will (1) refuse to let your kid wear those clothes, thus guaranteeing that she is disappointed, and (2) ensure that if the other kid wears the outfit, she, too, will be disappointed. How does that even make sense?


OP, are you being treated for anxiety? Your kid is five. This is no big deal at all. I had to read your post twice to even FIND what you thought was the problem. This is a non-issue.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 11:39     Subject: your thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:My thoughts - you cannot protect your child from every stupid disappointment in life. If you cared enough about this to post it, I can tell you right now that your child will be poorly equipped to handle adversity in the future.


A bit harsh, but I had similar thoughts. Plus, I just don't understand the logic. Your child wants to wear a certain, perfectly normal, outfit in order to match with her friend. You are worried that the friend might not wear the outfit, too, thus disappointing your child. In order to prevent this minor disappointment, you will (1) refuse to let your kid wear those clothes, thus guaranteeing that she is disappointed, and (2) ensure that if the other kid wears the outfit, she, too, will be disappointed. How does that even make sense?
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 10:07     Subject: your thoughts?
My thoughts - you cannot protect your child from every stupid disappointment in life. If you cared enough about this to post it, I can tell you right now that your child will be poorly equipped to handle adversity in the future.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 08:36     Subject: your thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:I'm confused, is this an outfit you would otherwise not allow?

If my 5 year old's friend had the same dress and they coordinated to wear it on the same day, I would think it was cute. If the other kid forgot, that wouldn't be a big deal.


Plus, if you didn't allow it, then the other kid might show up wearing the outfit and your kid would be the one who didn't follow the plan. Assuming this is a normal school outfit, I can't see what the issue is with letting her wear it, coordination with another friend or not.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 08:34     Subject: your thoughts?
Why not? Literally the worst thing that can happen is the that other little girl forgets or otherwise doesn't wear the same outfit. It's not like you sent her to school in a fright wig and a bathing suit. I really don't understand the problem.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 08:30     Subject: your thoughts?
I'm confused, is this an outfit you would otherwise not allow?

If my 5 year old's friend had the same dress and they coordinated to wear it on the same day, I would think it was cute. If the other kid forgot, that wouldn't be a big deal.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2019 08:26     Subject: your thoughts?
DD5 and a girl in her class decided to wear the same clothes today for fun. They discussed it, drew pictures of it and everything. It is a Target rainbow color change shirt and matching purple pants. I sent her to school as she wished but now am thinking all of these negative thoughts. ( What if other girl doesn't wear the clothes today )

Would you have sent your DD to school if she begged you and told you this same thing?