I'm raising two girls (blended family) who are the same age and puberty has been a b!tch.

The one who has been complimented on her looks her whole life is now going through a bit of an "ugly" stage.

The one who was more toy-boy-ish and plain looking has blossomed into a beautiful young woman and is now getting all of the compliments and attention.

Suuuupppper fun times at our house.

It's also been very hard to brake relatives from saying things like "oh, you just get more beautiful each time I see you!"

Looks can change wildly between now and adulthood. I was a stunning child and my sister was so ugly that people sometimes assumed she had a genetic defect (she didn’t). Things switched when we grew up, my features warped and I look kind of weird, while she is stunning. Men approach her while she is with another man and try to steal her away, while I haven’t been hit on in years.

Anonymous wrote:My friend’s daughter was beautiful when she was 5 and under. Big giant eyes with long lashes. Everyone would notice and comment on how gorgeous she was. Now she is 10, glasses, short and chubby. I would not even consider her average now. Don’t discount your daughter yet.

Check back in 8 years. If she was a pretty kid she will be a pretty adult. Preteen years are rarely kind.

Wow, this thread gets the super F-ed up award. I feel sorry for your kids, OP.

My friend’s daughter was beautiful when she was 5 and under. Big giant eyes with long lashes. Everyone would notice and comment on how gorgeous she was. Now she is 10, glasses, short and chubby. I would not even consider her average now. Don’t discount your daughter yet.

My truly physically beautiful college friends are on average much less "successful" (fulfilling lives, supportive husbands, etc.) than the average or merely "pretty."

OP, where are you from?

Your 3 year old daughter could transform as she grows, you know. She may end up gorgeous.

Anonymous wrote:The relative attractiveness of 3 v 5 year olds tells you very little about what they’re going to look like S adults. My little brother was a gorgeous kid. Stopped on the street by a casting agent in NYC at about 18 months and in several national commercials through the preschool years. Puberty was not kind; he ended up totally normal/average looking. It really hurt his self-esteem, especially when he was so used to being fawned over by adults. Luckily, he had residuals from those commercials to pay for college/his first apartment to soften the below.

My stepdaughter is truly a gorgeous young woman. I’ve seen pictures of her as a young child and she was......less than gorgeous. I think girls who are going to have strong features need time to grow in to them.

The relative attractiveness of 3 v 5 year olds tells you very little about what they’re going to look like S adults. My little brother was a gorgeous kid. Stopped on the street by a casting agent in NYC at about 18 months and in several national commercials through the preschool years. Puberty was not kind; he ended up totally normal/average looking. It really hurt his self-esteem, especially when he was so used to being fawned over by adults. Luckily, he had residuals from those commercials to pay for college/his first apartment to soften the below.

OP, no matter what the other siblings look like, “I wish my daughter were a little prettier” is soo problematic and you need to fix your attitude before you mess up your DD.

Another one who’s going to f*ck up her children. What next, are you going to worry about how well-endowed your son is?

These things change constantly as children grow.

One option would be to raise the son as a girl, and the girl as a boy? After all, it is 2019...

You are either a troll or have internalized a lot of toxic messages. Please seek therapy before you eff your kids up.

I wonder if one sibling has a better look than the other, & they are different genders, would does that affect their confidence or personality development growing up? My 5 year old has a pretty boy face, and sometimes I can't help but jealous of his bright eyes with crazy long eyelashes. He has been mistaken as a girl before even with boy clothing & short hairs. My 3 year old girl has an average look, and I wish she looks a bit more soft on her face. When they stand next each other, people can't help but tend to notice the oldest first because of his appearance. I know sibling does not always look alike, but they look so different. I love them both, and I just wish my girl could be a little prettier like her brother. I may sound superficial, but I do believe girls with looks gets an advantage in a lot of things. And, I am glad that they are not the same gender.