Anonymous
Post 03/28/2019 09:21     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I pretty well run the show in my house because I’m very organized and detail oriented. My DH was a few things he’s responsible for and he does them well but he has no interest in all the stuff required to keep a house going. On the other hand he manages our investments and he makes a ton of money and never questions what I spend. So I may wear the pants when it comes to our home but I have no problem with it.


Op here. He doesn’t make much money either. He doesn’t have a vision or goals.


PP - then you do have a problem! Was he always like this? I don’t think this happens overnight. I can see that spending a lifetime with someone like that would be miserable.
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2019 08:32     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Anonymous wrote:I pretty well run the show in my house because I’m very organized and detail oriented. My DH was a few things he’s responsible for and he does them well but he has no interest in all the stuff required to keep a house going. On the other hand he manages our investments and he makes a ton of money and never questions what I spend. So I may wear the pants when it comes to our home but I have no problem with it.


Op here. He doesn’t make much money either. He doesn’t have a vision or goals.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 22:19     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Time to get him diagnosed with Asperger's


Isn’t ADHD the preferred DCUM diagnosis?

ADHD husband, autistic kid — all the ladies have them!


It’s a DCUM requirement!
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 21:26     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Anonymous wrote:Time to get him diagnosed with Asperger's


Isn’t ADHD the preferred DCUM diagnosis?

ADHD husband, autistic kid — all the ladies have them!
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 20:12     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
I feel you OP. its a total turn off. Im a feminist but damn a woman needs a real alpha who can make shyt happen.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 18:48     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
I had the same problem and talked to him about it. He stepped up his game.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:59     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Time to get him diagnosed with Asperger's
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:52     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
I pretty well run the show in my house because I’m very organized and detail oriented. My DH was a few things he’s responsible for and he does them well but he has no interest in all the stuff required to keep a house going. On the other hand he manages our investments and he makes a ton of money and never questions what I spend. So I may wear the pants when it comes to our home but I have no problem with it.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:39     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Dont worry, you have plenty of company. Every woman in DCUM thinks her DH is lazy and incompetent.

Of course, if he wore the pants you'd be in here moaning that he is "controlling and emotionally abusive".
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:34     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
He’s wearing panties...
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:33     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
If you wore the pants, then you could direct him to do things for the family and he would do them. Sounds instead like you do all the work. That doesn't mean you wear the pants.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:29     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
its fine to vent but you know the drill get off DCUM and talk to your husband
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:25     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
What is he laid back and unmotivated about? Hard to tell if you are nagging type A who doesn't know how to just relax or if you have a lazy jerk husband.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:22     Subject: Re:I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
Um...sounds like things are getting done and he doesn't even need to move his finger.
Which means he wears the pants.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2019 17:18     Subject: I wear the pants in my marriage and I hate it
I never thought I would run the show but my DH is so laid back and unmotivated I feel like I keep pushing him forward. I am so tired and feel stressed out.

I am jealous of women who have functioning husbands who can be lazy because their husbands are smart and motivated