Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

You mean you know that your husband has an AP or are you just paranoid?

No, I’m worried about OP’s husband’s potential AP.

You're worried? Get help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

You mean you know that your husband has an AP or are you just paranoid?

No, I’m worried about OP’s husband’s potential AP.

Just because your DH has an AP doesn't mean OP's does. Trying to infict your pain on others''?

Ask you DH what he'd prefer. I'd be torn too...alone time sounds great.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

I can assure you I’m not worried about that, but thanks for your concern.

Ok good. Then I think you and DH should still try to get alone time. Ask his parents if they can reschedule.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

You mean you know that your husband has an AP or are you just paranoid?

No, I’m worried about OP’s husband’s potential AP.

Does your DH get a say? I'm sure he was looking forward to some time with just the two of you. It would suck for him if he had to get stuck working for the weekend and then not getting alone time with you. I would reschedule. (And trust me, I get the appeal of alone time - sounds like HEAVEN).

Anonymous wrote:+1 to no wrong answer

DD is almost 2.5. Due to our childcare circumstances, work, and being far from friends and family, I haven’t had more than a few hours alone since she was born. That not being a martyr.. it’s been necessary, but I would KILL (well, not really) for a day or two to just be by myself.

There’s pluses and minuses to both arrangements... but which one is important to YOU? In all honesty, I’d probably change so DH and I could be together, but what I really need is that I have a day or two alone.

Yes! I’m the first PP who said I’d take alone time. DS is 2.5 and I never get alone time. If I were OP I’d take the alone time without a second thought and clean the house for 30-60 minutes before getting a massage or haircut. Then Netflix and eat appetizer like meals for the rest of the time. Maybe read. And I’d try to get a night away with DH the next time we visit family. They can watch DS at our house while we go stay somewhere else for a night or we can schlepp everyone to the grandparents and visit... and during that time take a night away.

+1 to no wrong answer

DD is almost 2.5. Due to our childcare circumstances, work, and being far from friends and family, I haven’t had more than a few hours alone since she was born. That not being a martyr.. it’s been necessary, but I would KILL (well, not really) for a day or two to just be by myself.

There’s pluses and minuses to both arrangements... but which one is important to YOU? In all honesty, I’d probably change so DH and I could be together, but what I really need is that I have a day or two alone.

Omg alone time actually alone sounds amazing.

Anonymous wrote:I really enjoy going away with my husband so we would reschedule, but I don’t think there is a wrong answer.

This is exactly why I’m so torn! I’m crowdsourcing hoping someone points out something that’ll sway me in one direction.

Anonymous wrote:I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

I can assure you I’m not worried about that, but thanks for your concern.

I really enjoy going away with my husband so we would reschedule, but I don’t think there is a wrong answer.

Anonymous wrote:I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

You mean you know that your husband has an AP or are you just paranoid?

If I were you, I’d take the alone time because I need it. If you feel you need time with your husband, do that.


Omg alone time actually alone sounds amazing.

I’d be worried that DH is making up an excuse to go away with his AP instead. So I’d ask them to switch weekends to see how things go.

My ILs were going to take the kids this weekend, but my DH suddenly has to leave town in a couple hours due to a work emergency. We were going to have some much needed alone time. I’m conflicted. Do I ask ILs if they’ll take them next weekend instead so we can be alone then, or have them take them as planned and just forget about the alone time with DH and plan some alone time for myself? I think they will happily accommodate either, but I know they won’t watch them both weekends, and we wouldn’t expect that.

WWYD?