Anonymous wrote:This is more about the attention that this generation craves, not sure it's a bi/straight/gay thing at all. Girls especially seem to be constantly snap chatting, selfifying and whatever. That is what needs addressing here.

Are you a baby boomer?

If so, let's talk about the attention your generation demanded. You protested all sorts of things (and not just the war -- you demanded everyone learn all about "free love" and sat around on the street displaying your hippie credentials).

You made hits out of songs like My Generation and The Times They Are A-Changin', which are all about saying "look how awesome we are and how out of touch everyone else is."

I like 60s/70s music, but god I hate how entitled and myopic so many of you are.

This is more about the attention that this generation craves, not sure it's a bi/straight/gay thing at all. Girls especially seem to be constantly snap chatting, selfifying and whatever. That is what needs addressing here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the bi girls I knew from school are now happily straight adults.

Let her go through this phase. If it turns out to be more serious, there's nothing wrong with it either.

And yes, this generation is the most attention demanding, attention seeking, self-centered and self-absorbed generation ever. Which is saying a lot. They have no clue. I suppose we adults are to blame to some extent.

Just a quick note that being married to or serially dating someone of the opposite gender doesn’t make a “formerly bi” person straight, nor does being married to or serially dating someone of the same gender make them gay.

Carry on.

True.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the bi girls I knew from school are now happily straight adults.

Let her go through this phase. If it turns out to be more serious, there's nothing wrong with it either.

And yes, this generation is the most attention demanding, attention seeking, self-centered and self-absorbed generation ever. Which is saying a lot. They have no clue. I suppose we adults are to blame to some extent.

Just a quick note that being married to or serially dating someone of the opposite gender doesn’t make a “formerly bi” person straight, nor does being married to or serially dating someone of the same gender make them gay.

Carry on.

This. Thank you.

Part of the reason they want to announce it to the world is because the world is assuming she’s something she’s not. Whether someone thinks it’s a phase or a choice or part of her down to her core, it’s how she identifies now. It would be sort of like if people were mistakenly calling her Maddie and her name was really Maggie, and she finally got up the nerve to start telling people how she wants to be identified. I don’t think straight people get it because the world is so heteronormative. It’s not an issue most people ever have to deal with, so they aren’t really capable of the same perspective.

Personally, I think it’s great that she’s close enough with extended family that she feels comfortable sharing with them. That’s really awesome.

As far as stickers and other identifiers, she’s looking for her people. She’s looking for support and for people who identify like she does, and showing others that she’s part of that community too. It’s isolating to be different. It’s wonderful that our kids now have subtle ways to show they’re supportive of their friends or are themselves part of the lgbt community.

It sounds like it’s all new to her now and she might be going a little overboard but it’s normal. She probably has some anxiety about coming out, even if she doesn’t show it. Think about new transitions parents and kids face and how you’d handle them. When she started a new school, you probably researched it, talked to people about it, maybe even got a school t shirt. You’ll probably do it even more intensely when she goes to college. Imagine if you found out she had autism. You’d research doctors, join a support group, discuss therapies with your friends, maybe slap a magnetic ribbon on your car or sign up for a 5k to raise awareness. If her soccer team won the championship, you’d post on Facebook, talk it up with the other soccer parents, maybe even go out to dinner or a treat with the team and tell the server why everyone is so happy, probably showing off the trophy. People share things about themselves all the time, but no one gets more grief than teens or the lgbt community.

Anonymous wrote:Most of the bi girls I knew from school are now happily straight adults.

Let her go through this phase. If it turns out to be more serious, there's nothing wrong with it either.

And yes, this generation is the most attention demanding, attention seeking, self-centered and self-absorbed generation ever. Which is saying a lot. They have no clue. I suppose we adults are to blame to some extent.

Just a quick note that being married to or serially dating someone of the opposite gender doesn’t make a “formerly bi” person straight, nor does being married to or serially dating someone of the same gender make them gay.

Carry on.

Most of the bi girls I knew from school are now happily straight adults.

Let her go through this phase. If it turns out to be more serious, there's nothing wrong with it either.

And yes, this generation is the most attention demanding, attention seeking, self-centered and self-absorbed generation ever. Which is saying a lot. They have no clue. I suppose we adults are to blame to some extent.

This generation is addicted to attention.

DD (14) is bi. She just told us but I have sensed this for a while (SO to post on this board about whether or not to ask - very helpful!). Now that she has told us she is texting calling everyone in the family to tell them and wants clothes/stickers/etc with words/phrases about being bi. I have no hesitation about others knowing she is bi, but I don't quite understand the desire she has to shout her sexual identity to the world. I want to be as supportive as possible and would appreciate any input so I can better understand. Many thanks in advance.