Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:54
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds very lazy to quit working to stay at home once your children don't require childcare during the day because they're in school. Is that your actual plan? I don't know anyone who does/did that.
Serious question, how do you handle sick days and snow days? I also work part-time like the pp. Just this morning my dd woke up with pinkeye. We have no family in the area, and dh’s job is fairly inflexible. I don’t know how we’d manage if I also had an inflexible position.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:54
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:what would you do with your time? after a few months, wouldn't it get boring?
Working mom here. I can't quit because we need the money so I have no dog in this fight.
But, I don't get this question. Don't you have hobbies and things you like to do? School is only 6 hours during the day. It's not really that much time to fill, especially if you have to fill some of it running errands and cleaning. I've always been jealous of the women I see doing 2 back to back classes at the gym and then going in the sauna or getting a message. I never have time for that. I'm always running and trying to squeeze things in.
Working parent here. Yeah, it’s 6 hours. I would almost do anything for 6 free hours a day. Seriously. I should have married a rich man!
I mean, I could fill it with hobbies, netflix etc.... don't know if that's the way to live though
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:53
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
I did. When they were pre school age and in daycare and I came home from work it was easy and the evenings were whatever we wanted them to be. Once they started school, you lose that. They have homework and activities and the evenings get harder and harder. I always said I can't imagine how hard it would have been had I been exhausted from a day at work. I take a little down time to myself in the morning for about a half hour after they go off to school, but I have picked up so much of what DH used to do around the house and running our household that I am super busy, never bored -- Never sit around for 6 hours. It has taken a tremendous amount of stress off of me -- I still have a ton to do but it is at my own pace and my own priorities and my house is a little more organized and little cleaner and I cook a few better meals and have a little more time to shop more cost effectively. DH has been able to focus more on his job since I have picked up so much of what he has done at home so his income has increased and kind of made up for my loss of income.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:51
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds very lazy to quit working to stay at home once your children don't require childcare during the day because they're in school. Is that your actual plan? I don't know anyone who does/did that.
It happens when DH career takes off (makes partner, break 7 figures, etc)
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:51
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I SAH full-time when my son was 0-2. I went back to work very part-time when he turned 2 (10 hours per week) and now work the same now (he is 5 and in Kindergarten). So I consider myself somewhat of a SAHM. I plan to continue working 10 hours per week throughout elementary school at least. I love my schedule. It's the perfect mix of work an leisure. Here's why I only work 10 hours per week:
-DH is in a very inflexible, non-family friendly job. His hours are 6 am - 6 pm and will never change. He can never do drop offs or pick ups, sick days or snow days. Since I have to do all those things it makes sense for me to have a very flexible, part-time job.
-No local family in the area to help out for sick days or snow days.
-DH can't attend any programs/events at the school unless he takes the entire day off, so he can't take the morning off to go to a school event, for example. Since we have no family in the area I feel like I need to be at every single school program/event so my son has someone there.
-DH works 70 hour weeks. I take care of all the grocery shopping, meal prep, cleaning and repairs.
-Since I don't work every day, I still have free time to get appointments done, shop, work out, hobbies, etc. It's great.
working mom here.
10 hours is nothing. why even bother? I think our interns even do more than 10 hours a week.
PP here. Why bother? Because I get to be a professional in the field I love but work reasonable hours, make good money (I get paid a lot per hour), and be there for everything my child needs (sick days, snow days, all school activities, volunteer at the school). It's enough hours that I stay intellectually engaged but not enough hours that I feel burned out. It's perfect and I love my schedule.
I guess I'm just wondering what you can even accomplish in 10 hours.
Are you per diem?
One ten hour day a week would make sense.
But splitting it up over 3 or 5 days is crazy. What could you even get done in that time?!
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:50
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Sounds very lazy to quit working to stay at home once your children don't require childcare during the day because they're in school. Is that your actual plan? I don't know anyone who does/did that.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:45
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I SAH full-time when my son was 0-2. I went back to work very part-time when he turned 2 (10 hours per week) and now work the same now (he is 5 and in Kindergarten). So I consider myself somewhat of a SAHM. I plan to continue working 10 hours per week throughout elementary school at least. I love my schedule. It's the perfect mix of work an leisure. Here's why I only work 10 hours per week:
-DH is in a very inflexible, non-family friendly job. His hours are 6 am - 6 pm and will never change. He can never do drop offs or pick ups, sick days or snow days. Since I have to do all those things it makes sense for me to have a very flexible, part-time job.
-No local family in the area to help out for sick days or snow days.
-DH can't attend any programs/events at the school unless he takes the entire day off, so he can't take the morning off to go to a school event, for example. Since we have no family in the area I feel like I need to be at every single school program/event so my son has someone there.
-DH works 70 hour weeks. I take care of all the grocery shopping, meal prep, cleaning and repairs.
-Since I don't work every day, I still have free time to get appointments done, shop, work out, hobbies, etc. It's great.
working mom here.
10 hours is nothing. why even bother? I think our interns even do more than 10 hours a week.
PP here. Why bother? Because I get to be a professional in the field I love but work reasonable hours, make good money (I get paid a lot per hour), and be there for everything my child needs (sick days, snow days, all school activities, volunteer at the school). It's enough hours that I stay intellectually engaged but not enough hours that I feel burned out. It's perfect and I love my schedule.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:43
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Well this is why the invented soap operas...
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:42
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:what would you do with your time? after a few months, wouldn't it get boring?
Working mom here. I can't quit because we need the money so I have no dog in this fight.
But, I don't get this question. Don't you have hobbies and things you like to do? School is only 6 hours during the day. It's not really that much time to fill, especially if you have to fill some of it running errands and cleaning. I've always been jealous of the women I see doing 2 back to back classes at the gym and then going in the sauna or getting a message. I never have time for that. I'm always running and trying to squeeze things in.
Working parent here. Yeah, it’s 6 hours. I would almost do anything for 6 free hours a day. Seriously. I should have married a rich man!
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:41
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:I SAH full-time when my son was 0-2. I went back to work very part-time when he turned 2 (10 hours per week) and now work the same now (he is 5 and in Kindergarten). So I consider myself somewhat of a SAHM. I plan to continue working 10 hours per week throughout elementary school at least. I love my schedule. It's the perfect mix of work an leisure. Here's why I only work 10 hours per week:
-DH is in a very inflexible, non-family friendly job. His hours are 6 am - 6 pm and will never change. He can never do drop offs or pick ups, sick days or snow days. Since I have to do all those things it makes sense for me to have a very flexible, part-time job.
-No local family in the area to help out for sick days or snow days.
-DH can't attend any programs/events at the school unless he takes the entire day off, so he can't take the morning off to go to a school event, for example. Since we have no family in the area I feel like I need to be at every single school program/event so my son has someone there.
-DH works 70 hour weeks. I take care of all the grocery shopping, meal prep, cleaning and repairs.
-Since I don't work every day, I still have free time to get appointments done, shop, work out, hobbies, etc. It's great.
working mom here.
10 hours is nothing. why even bother? I think our interns even do more than 10 hours a week.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:38
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:what would you do with your time? after a few months, wouldn't it get boring?
Working mom here. I can't quit because we need the money so I have no dog in this fight.
But, I don't get this question. Don't you have hobbies and things you like to do? School is only 6 hours during the day. It's not really that much time to fill, especially if you have to fill some of it running errands and cleaning. I've always been jealous of the women I see doing 2 back to back classes at the gym and then going in the sauna or getting a message. I never have time for that. I'm always running and trying to squeeze things in.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:33
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
I SAH full-time when my son was 0-2. I went back to work very part-time when he turned 2 (10 hours per week) and now work the same now (he is 5 and in Kindergarten). So I consider myself somewhat of a SAHM. I plan to continue working 10 hours per week throughout elementary school at least. I love my schedule. It's the perfect mix of work an leisure. Here's why I only work 10 hours per week:
-DH is in a very inflexible, non-family friendly job. His hours are 6 am - 6 pm and will never change. He can never do drop offs or pick ups, sick days or snow days. Since I have to do all those things it makes sense for me to have a very flexible, part-time job.
-No local family in the area to help out for sick days or snow days.
-DH can't attend any programs/events at the school unless he takes the entire day off, so he can't take the morning off to go to a school event, for example. Since we have no family in the area I feel like I need to be at every single school program/event so my son has someone there.
-DH works 70 hour weeks. I take care of all the grocery shopping, meal prep, cleaning and repairs.
-Since I don't work every day, I still have free time to get appointments done, shop, work out, hobbies, etc. It's great.
-DH is in a very inflexible, non-family friendly job. His hours are 6 am - 6 pm and will never change. He can never do drop offs or pick ups, sick days or snow days. Since I have to do all those things it makes sense for me to have a very flexible, part-time job.
-No local family in the area to help out for sick days or snow days.
-DH can't attend any programs/events at the school unless he takes the entire day off, so he can't take the morning off to go to a school event, for example. Since we have no family in the area I feel like I need to be at every single school program/event so my son has someone there.
-DH works 70 hour weeks. I take care of all the grocery shopping, meal prep, cleaning and repairs.
-Since I don't work every day, I still have free time to get appointments done, shop, work out, hobbies, etc. It's great.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:31
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
what would you do with your time? after a few months, wouldn't it get boring?
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:27
Subject: Re:Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
I'm curious about this as well. I currently WOH but don't need to. DS will be in school full time soon so I am alone tempted to stay at home, but don't want to regret it.
Anonymous
03/12/2019 08:23
Subject: Are you happy as a SAHM of school aged kids? Why or why not?
I was reading the other threads on this topic and it reminded me that I'm curious about SAHMs of school aged kids.
I work full time but I'm not crazy about my job and we don't need the money. Every time I come home complaining about one of my co workers or the workload (upper management refuses to hire extra staff to lessen it), my DH says "why don't you quit and stay home with the kids?"
I didn't want to do this when they were little but now that they are both easier to manage and in school all day, I am tempted.
Has anyone else quit to stay home once their kids started school? What was it like? Were you bored or did you feel fulfilled?
I have to admit, being able to do whatever I want for six hours a day sounds sooo nice right now!
Also I shouldn't h ave to say this but I obviously do: please no trolling. If you can't think of anything nice to say, just don't say anything at all.
I work full time but I'm not crazy about my job and we don't need the money. Every time I come home complaining about one of my co workers or the workload (upper management refuses to hire extra staff to lessen it), my DH says "why don't you quit and stay home with the kids?"
I didn't want to do this when they were little but now that they are both easier to manage and in school all day, I am tempted.
Has anyone else quit to stay home once their kids started school? What was it like? Were you bored or did you feel fulfilled?
I have to admit, being able to do whatever I want for six hours a day sounds sooo nice right now!
Also I shouldn't h ave to say this but I obviously do: please no trolling. If you can't think of anything nice to say, just don't say anything at all.