Start having playdates with other kids.

Your dh is right. Invite them when you can and hope it’s reciprocated. It’s normal to feel bad about your first kid missing out and hopefully this can be a lesson in learning not to take things so personally in regards to your dd. I know it might be hard to control a natural emotion but the sooner you start developing coping strategies to get your mind off non-intended slights the better. I’m also more sensitive about my kids than myself, it hurts but there are ways to take your mind off and think logically.

It isn’t about your kid! The parents are probably friends.

We had a three way love triangle at our preschool. It had nothing to do with kids. My husband and one dad totally got along while third dad just didn’t. 5 years later, my husband and the other dad are like best friends. They hang out the most without the kids or wives.

When kids were younger, we would go out to eat or do outings. Even vacationed together a few times.

I am still friends with the other mom but we get together less and less as our kids go to different schools and have different interests now.

My husband sees other dad at least once a month.

As others said, this isn't about them choosing to exclude your daughter. They aren't planning playdates, they are two friends getting together with kids in tow.

If you don't do playdates, how are you friends on FB? I'm almost never friends on FB until after we've hung out a few times.

But yes, just invite them over. Even just one at a time. No big deal at all.

it's about the parents at that age.

You are being WAY too sensitive AND overthinking this. Just invite them for a playdate.

Not everyone can put your child first.

Invite one or both of them for a playdate, OP. Sometimes, odd numbers leave one child out.

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Anonymous wrote:So invite them for a play date!

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And remember that every playdate doesn't have to be with all the kids.

And in this case, it's very clear that part of the motivation for the playdate is for the parents. They want to hang out with other parents who share their culture and speak their language. Just like many playdates at this age are really about the parents wanting to hang out because they are friends.

Invite them! Because they have common interests, there may be times when they want to get together without you, but at other times they will be happy to join you or invite you. People are busy so you need to be assertive with invites.

Anonymous wrote:Understand that playdates are for the moms. They are from the same country and want to talkin their native language. It’s not about you or your kid.

St this age this is a lot of it. I’m more likely to have play dates with parents I want to hang out with. 2 and 3 year olds really don’t play together together. More like run around st the same time. So it’s a mom socializing thing.

Anonymous wrote:So invite them for a play date!

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Understand that playdates are for the moms. They are from the same country and want to talkin their native language. It’s not about you or your kid.

So invite them for a play date!

At our preschool, my daughter is in some kind of clique with 2 other kids, Daniel and Wendy. They are all 3 year olds. Before Wendy started at school, she and Daniel are really close and we had a couple of playdates. Wendy started later and turns out, Wendy and Daniel parents are from the same country and they speak a common language. In any case, the 3 kids play really well at school. I learned from social media (I am friends with them) that Daniel and Wendy have lots of playdates together but my daughter was not invited. I am feeling sad because DD would have love to play with them as well. DH thinks that it's not because they don't like DD or me, but because they the parents, just bonded, and they probably have conversations and just plan a play date without even thinking of us.

I know it's a big deal but as a FTM, I just want to understand how to navigate these playdates stuff. I thought that if the kids like each other, we would do playdates together.