Yes, I did. I left a short term marriage (2 years) with no kids involved for my AP, who I’m now married to. The marriage was awful almost from Day 1 and my ex refused therapy even though I begged him to go - until it was too late and I was checked out, which is when I met AP. Never should have married my first H in the first place - we were young and stupid.

I wish it hadn’t all gone down the way it did, but I don’t regret getting divorced or being with AP. Now been married happily with kids for over a decade.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Once the kids went to College. No one knows I left for AP. They all think we began dating after the divorce.

I bet someone knows or suspects and you just don’t hear the whispering behind your back.

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Anonymous wrote:I did. We’ve been together 14 years and married. However, while the marriage is great, it causes family issues. Don’t do it.

I’m very confused about this post. You have a great marriage, but you still have an affair?

I read this to mean the APs got married to each other. But if there are big family issues, which is almost always going to happen once the affair gets discovered, it seems the marriage can’t be that great.

Yes. Once the kids went to College. No one knows I left for AP. They all think we began dating after the divorce.

I ended up leaving my AP after about a year. Turns out, I am really bad at choosing romantic partners. I don’t regret leaving either relationship, but I am now in therapy, to learn how to choose an appropriate partner. I’m also ok with being alone now, so there is no rush to find someone.

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Do you think you’ll get an honest response ? It’s not like someone who has done this is going to be candid about it.

Can you read? The third post in this thread said that while the relationship is great, there have been other significant family issues when it happened to him/her, and then even advised not to do it.

Do you think you’ll get an honest response ? It’s not like someone who has done this is going to be candid about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I did. We’ve been together 14 years and married. However, while the marriage is great, it causes family issues. Don’t do it.

I’m very confused about this post. You have a great marriage, but you still have an affair?

Not pp, but I think they’re saying they had an affair, left their spouse to marry the AP, and the current marriage to the AP is great but has caused other problems.

The stigma will follow you FOREVER, and it's is a million times worse for the female. Everyone in his family will always, always think if you as the honewrecking whore, even if they didn't like his ex. If there are kids involved, you are pretty much guaranteeing they will hate you and make your life miserable. You might be happy for a hot minute, but the stigma takes a toll. Trust me, I've been there.

How do relationships work with two philanderers? You know that the other person is not above cheating. Seems like a miserable way to live.

Anonymous wrote:I did. We’ve been together 14 years and married. However, while the marriage is great, it causes family issues. Don’t do it.

I’m very confused about this post. You have a great marriage, but you still have an affair?

It’s your life. Do with it what you want

I did. We’ve been together 14 years and married. However, while the marriage is great, it causes family issues. Don’t do it.

Didn’t work out for my X. His AP went back to her DH. Haaaaaaaaa!

Has anybody done this? Outcome?