Anonymous wrote:The only thing I really regret about college was joining a sorority. What a huge waste of time and money. Ugh.

Yes! One reason I joined was for employment internships. Dumb idea. HaTed every minute. Found friends elsewhere. Waste money and time as pp said.

I was a Chi Omega pledge and quit as soon as I could. So embarrassed to be a part of the sorority scene. 1980s

OP here, to clarify it's a social club with sub clubs like book club, bunco, and playdates ect. I am 33 and it's a mixture of ladies 20s to 50s i would say. We have moved all over so I have lost contact of most of my friends over time so I am giving it a shot.

I feel like the only “real” sororities are down south. I went to a small school outside of NYC for undergrad and a big SEC school for grad school and at the SEC school sororities seem to have a rich history and meaning and community involvement. At other schools in different regions they’re an afterthought or a way to buy into a party lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:I recently joined a social club and i feel like so many of the women are soo poised and elegant. How do i know if i am talking too much? I feel like sorority girls always know how to stand in photos and know better around social interactions. Is an ettiquette course worth it? Any advice or a book to read?

Sororities aren’t fostering poise and elegance.

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Anonymous wrote:I recently joined a social club and i feel like so many of the women are soo poised and elegant. How do i know if i am talking too much? I feel like sorority girls always know how to stand in photos and know better around social interactions. Is an ettiquette course worth it? Any advice or a book to read?

Sororities are basically this entire sentiment and insecurity bouncing around in a house of young women who spend a LOT of time working on appearances. If you avoided it once, why would you subject yourself to it now?

This is quite a generalization.
It’s hard to avoid people who “work on appearances” - in my adult life it seems like everyone is full of crap.

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I really regret about college was joining a sorority. What a huge waste of time and money. Ugh.

Agree with this. I joined as an insecure, curious teen and then discovered that most of what happened in that setting to be either super corny or super contrived. My closest friendships grew more organically outside my sorority, not because I declared someone a “sister.” It was all about image and drinking and parties yet wasn’t fun and was time consuming.

I lost interest in my sorority during my senior year of college mostly because I felt I had little in common with most of the girls. I felt comfortable making new friends outside of my sorority and just didn’t want to be bothered with meetings and social events with a group of people that I didn’t care to spend time with.
It never occurred to me - until now - that the three years I spent as an active sorority member helped me to build my social skills. Working on projects and attending social events with a large, diverse group of young women gave me lots and lots of practice in the social skills department that I would not have had otherwise. Ironically the confidence I gained led me right out of the sorority into a new group of friends - but looking back I truly have no regrets. Sorority life can have some long lasting benefits. That said, I’m sure the same benefits can be gained outside of a sorority!

Op, how old are you? How old are the other women in the club? If you are younger than the other women it makes sense that they’d appear more poised & elegant.

Anonymous wrote:I recently joined a social club and i feel like so many of the women are soo poised and elegant. How do i know if i am talking too much? I feel like sorority girls always know how to stand in photos and know better around social interactions. Is an ettiquette course worth it? Any advice or a book to read?

Sororities are basically this entire sentiment and insecurity bouncing around in a house of young women who spend a LOT of time working on appearances. If you avoided it once, why would you subject yourself to it now?

The only thing I really regret about college was joining a sorority. What a huge waste of time and money. Ugh.

PP if you had been in a social club for four years you would know not to (publicly) use that language

Is this for f@clingvreal?

Eating disorders and faked sexual experimentation

I recently joined a social club and i feel like so many of the women are soo poised and elegant. How do i know if i am talking too much? I feel like sorority girls always know how to stand in photos and know better around social interactions. Is an ettiquette course worth it? Any advice or a book to read?