Anonymous wrote:I think in today's world, it's even harder to say. Just like giving a woman flowers or doing any other once traditional romantic gesture.

As a man who used to do these things, I can't imagine I ever will again. On V-day, sure. But that's the extent of it. Romance is dead and not actually wanted by women anymore.

That’s not true. I love romance. And I still believe in love.

I think in today's world, it's even harder to say. Just like giving a woman flowers or doing any other once traditional romantic gesture.

As a man who used to do these things, I can't imagine I ever will again. On V-day, sure. But that's the extent of it. Romance is dead and not actually wanted by women anymore.

Anonymous wrote:Almost 8 months. I was about to leave him over it. He doesn’t know that. But I had dated soyfor almost 2 years who never said it. And I was afraid I was going to end up in another one of those relationships.

I knew very quickly I loved him, like less than 1 month. But he had gotten divorce a few years prior. And quickly got involved with a unmediated crazy woman which was intense, but unhealthy. And now he just wanted to take it slow.

About month 6.5, we talked about it. He knew how I felt about him (even though I never said it). And he said he was getting there, just not there yet. Give him time.

And he treated me and acted like he loved me. He didn’t play the push-pull game. He was genuine and present. So I waited.

Glad I did. Once he did say it, he never shut up. Probably said it 20-30 times a day for several years. Now we are down to 10 times a day. Words are one of our love languages.

Concur. Love is something you do, not something you "feel."

It took me a long time to tell my wife the first time. Now we end every phone call with it. ya know....just in case.

Sometimes I"ll mix it up....."You know I love you dear, but I LOVVVVE this new super quiet dishwashing machine" !

Honestly, if someone told me that he loved me within the first month of us meeting, I would assume that it was the idea of love that he loved, not me. Because I don’t think you can truely love someone until you know that person, and unless you’re in school or some situation where you are seeing each other daily, it’s going to take more than a month to know each other that well.

I love you DCUM

Love you too. There, I said it. It does take vulnerability and having no expectations of it being returned even if you hope it is.

Almost 8 months. I was about to leave him over it. He doesn’t know that. But I had dated soyfor almost 2 years who never said it. And I was afraid I was going to end up in another one of those relationships.

I knew very quickly I loved him, like less than 1 month. But he had gotten divorce a few years prior. And quickly got involved with a unmediated crazy woman which was intense, but unhealthy. And now he just wanted to take it slow.

About month 6.5, we talked about it. He knew how I felt about him (even though I never said it). And he said he was getting there, just not there yet. Give him time.

And he treated me and acted like he loved me. He didn’t play the push-pull game. He was genuine and present. So I waited.

Glad I did. Once he did say it, he never shut up. Probably said it 20-30 times a day for several years. Now we are down to 10 times a day. Words are one of our love languages.

Because it’s vulnerable. Because it means I have to yum your yuck. Because it’s scary to admit.

Op, I'm with you that it's hard to say "I love you." I'm pregnant and we are happy and I still almost never say it, preferring "I'm so glad to be here with you." For me, it's because past relationships stung so I'm sceptical of the words now.

3 weeks in with this guy- my first marriage it took a few months. When you know know you know.

I've been in love twice in my life, and both times I knew almost immediately. It was probably three months until I said something the first time around. The second time it was over before I had the chance, and I regret it to this day.

I have no idea! My now DH wasn't verbally effusive but he did so many sweet things that I knew. Like the pp you sound very needy and need to back off.

Because of the stupid picture in your post, I suspect that you're emotionally needy and are upset that your guy senses that and is scared to give you any emotion in response, because you'll eat it up and want more and more. I'm sorry to be so nasty, but just looking at that picture and thinking that you thought it wise to include, sends up major red flags to me. And I love my fiancée and tell her that all the time. I told her when I realized it was love and not lust.

How far into the relationship did you hear/share these words?

Why is are they so hard to spit out?!