I don’t understand this play date- it’s at a show?

I give a lot more grace to people with new kids or new “changes”. I remember how much longer everything took while we were potty training and how you have to let them try and go three times or stop at a random store on the way. Or the baby has a massive blow out as soon as you put her in the car seat and you need to change her and wash the car seat pad. And the baby / toddler years are so full of those changes. Teething, potty training, dropping the nap, new siblings.

It is annoying and I try to set up life so that I don’t have to be impacted (meet at shoe / restaurant. Buy my own tickets. Meet for play date at a park). It is hard to be as punctual as you were as a solo adult. Not saying it does not suck, but I try to remember it is hard.

We have friends who are always late. I am less worried about it when they are dropping their daughter off to play. They are never late for a show, movie or event. The only person who is. Upset about late drop offs is my son because he knows he is losing play time with his friend.

No. I'm not waiting for you, time is valuable. If you can't be on time reschedule.

I have a friend who is always late. It drives me bonkers. if we are going to a show I tell her it starts 30 mins before it actually does.
We have seen shows at Glen Echo and I tell her it starts before it really does.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, how late? 15 minutes, totally fine. 30 minutes? Usually fine as long as they communicate. More than that- not great but it happens.

Maybe I should reframe the question. Is it unrealistic if I expect you to be on time for our playdate / outing esp if it is something time sensitive like a show?

Are we meeting at show or going together? Is my time management impacting your ability to get to event?

Meeting at the show at a designated spot and no I'll be there 15 minutes early to look around a little bit mostly for me.

It would be good for them to be there on time. It’s a realistic expectation to be on time, if you need them to be there early also that’s good to communicate. Being late is human and can happen though too. I’d be annoyed, especially if they were not in touch somehow to say they were running behind, but not let it spoil my experience. If they have the tickets it might be different.

That would annoy me. One time I can understand but I probably would not commit to more activities if it happened consistently.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, how late? 15 minutes, totally fine. 30 minutes? Usually fine as long as they communicate. More than that- not great but it happens.

Maybe I should reframe the question. Is it unrealistic if I expect you to be on time for our playdate / outing esp if it is something time sensitive like a show?

Are we meeting at show or going together? Is my time management impacting your ability to get to event?

Meeting at the show at a designated spot and no I'll be there 15 minutes early to look around a little bit mostly for me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, how late? 15 minutes, totally fine. 30 minutes? Usually fine as long as they communicate. More than that- not great but it happens.

Maybe I should reframe the question. Is it unrealistic if I expect you to be on time for our playdate / outing esp if it is something time sensitive like a show?

Are we meeting at show or going together? Is my time management impacting your ability to get to event?

Anonymous wrote:I mean, how late? 15 minutes, totally fine. 30 minutes? Usually fine as long as they communicate. More than that- not great but it happens.

Maybe I should reframe the question. Is it unrealistic if I expect you to be on time for our playdate / outing esp if it is something time sensitive like a show?

I mean, how late? 15 minutes, totally fine. 30 minutes? Usually fine as long as they communicate. More than that- not great but it happens.

In the world of playdates and parenthood is it okay if people are late?