Anonymous wrote:I need to become more exercise obsessed.

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of husband knows about barre and knows to put a capital on it??

I'm guessing the wife is the one who wrote this and is trying to gauge whether she's fitness obsessed or not.

Close. I think it’s a lazy wife who is asking us to judge her superfit neighbor and her choices.

I need to become more exercise obsessed.

Anonymous wrote:Other than sounding like shes a boring person with no real interests of note, I don't see an issue.

Exercise can't be an intrest? Isn't this the dream for middle aged moms?

What kind of husband knows about barre and knows to put a capital on it??

I'm guessing the wife is the one who wrote this and is trying to gauge whether she's fitness obsessed or not.

I think it's healthy for her to model exercise for your child in the mornings. I think it's healthy for her to get out of the house in the evenings to do something fun on her own when you can watch the kid. I've never done trampoline but Barre can be more of a strength/flexibility thing, and that's certainly true of yoga. So if cardio is part of her weight management strategy, yoga in the evenings won't cut it. I think the pool is a healthy way for your kid to burn some energy to get ready for bed. It's not like she's compulsively swimming laps while she's there with a two year old. Do you go with them to the pool? Are you welcome? What's your two year old's bedtime?

It sounds like you are rich so if it's the time without her in the evening that's bugging you, suggest she use daycare or a sitter to do the classes during the afternoon if possible. I think it's important to respect your wife's alone time (sounds like that's the classes) before you ask her for more family time.

Other than sounding like shes a boring person with no real interests of note, I don't see an issue.

2-3 hrs. of cardio/day is on the high side, but it wouldn't worry me unless there were other problems. I'd define other problems like she's sacrificing quality time with family to exercise, her body weight seems low, or she seems obsessive about getting her workouts in. From the way you write your original post, it seems like maybe you're starting to worry about the "other problem" category.

Sounds good to me and I used to be like this. It’s good for joint pain, your mood, your body and just generally for feelings of isolatation in being cooped up with a small child all day. Why would you doubt what your wife says , thinks and feels? You can do better.

Is she restrictive about food too? Could be a symptom of a larger problem.

I'd have to know more about the extent of the spinning, but probably not. The evening fitness class sounds normal. Taking the kid swimming just sounds like playing with the kid. Riding a stationary bike while you're bored at home with a little kid sounds as reasonable as anything else.

PP here. I'll also posit that if she is staying home with a small child, you getting home is a relief for her in that she can finally catch a break from the myriad needs of a small person and go do something good for herself.

Seems OK to me. FTR, I don't see an issue with a small kid being on a screen device while a parent works out. Sometimes that's the only way it'll happen. I think it's great that she's taking your child to the pool to swim, and a lot of exercise classes are held in the evening.

I have back pain and depression that I keep at bay with exercise. It's a real need.

Exercise is indeed good for joint pain.

Why does it bother you, exactly?

She will use the spinning bike during the day. Our 2 year old watches a show on the iPad while she spins. In the evening she goes to either a trampoline fitness class, yoga or Barre. Sometimes she will come back and insist on taking our son swimming in the community pool. We live in a warm climate so we can swim the majority of the year. Some days her classes are at 6:30 and other days it may be 7-8 pm. I get home around 6 pm. Does this sound excessive or is this just me? My wife struggles with joint pain and she says exercising makes her feel better.