This was totally my kid, and two things have helped her come out this year (3rd grade): therapy and Girl Scouts. I grew up being painfully shy and I knew what it was like to want to get involved with friends but just feel paralyzed and not know how to just get in there. So when we started seeing signs of the same with DD, we spoke to her pediatrician and got her into some therapy. I was hesitant because I thought of therapy as something you go to for a serious issue, but our ped helped us understand that for DD, it IS a serious issue, and better to get a professional to give her the tools to help herself now, rather than waiting for her "grow out of it."

Also, her Girl Scout troop is amazing and the GS ideals really helped her be more assertive.

It's not that she'll grow out of it. It's that she's being taught how to be social in an appropriate way, and hopefully those lessons will become automatic and second nature.

Our DC is painfully shy and has been going to therapy to work on social cues

It pains me to have to see her struggle with being social only because well, I never had this problem.
Will she grow out of it?

DH and I are both outgoing and in school I never had issues making friends

It just breaks my heart when I ask about friends and she doesn’t have much to say about them or hardly gets invited to birthday parties etc

She’s in the second grade.

I have tried communicating with other mom friends I have who do make it an effort to invite her to things their kids do, so it helps that I try and network for her with my friends.