I’d love it if we were practically single. I feel like there’s a noose around my neck.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been married almost a decade; we have never had a shared life. It has been awful. We are getting divorced and it is like a huge grey cloud being lifted (we also do not have sex or go on dates and it has been like that 90% or more of the marriage).

Just curious why you stayed for a decade?

Geography. I was trapped where I did not want to live. Could not get out due to custody issues. Otherwise I would have. Had to wait to get back where I want to live. I stupidly broke my own rule, which was “Never move for a man.”

Living separate in same house for over a year, after a strained draining 15 years of marriage. separate living quarters, food and finances. We can tolerate and actually like and care for each other but very incompatible and conflict prone in these day to day aspects of life.

Coparenting is great in same house, we have set times with the kids-which we do anyways due to work schedules. We provide emotional support to each other and have sex once or twice a week. Do shared weekend activities and vacations.
Lots of personal freedom, space and time which is amazing!!

Anonymous wrote:Been married almost a decade; we have never had a shared life. It has been awful. We are getting divorced and it is like a huge grey cloud being lifted (we also do not have sex or go on dates and it has been like that 90% or more of the marriage).

Just curious why you stayed for a decade?

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Anonymous wrote:Busy full lives with DCs (divide a conquer except dinners and holiday/family events) and separate hobbies, friends. Great sex life. Works for us.

If you are still having great sex, you are not living separate lives.

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I wish we could, and no there is no sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Busy full lives with DCs (divide a conquer except dinners and holiday/family events) and separate hobbies, friends. Great sex life. Works for us.

If you are still having great sex, you are not living separate lives.

Who said it was with their spouse

The poster who said the marriage had separate lives and still have a great sex life indicated they were still having sex with each other in the marriage. Learn to read.

Touché it says “ Great sex life.” It’s own sentence.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Busy full lives with DCs (divide a conquer except dinners and holiday/family events) and separate hobbies, friends. Great sex life. Works for us.

If you are still having great sex, you are not living separate lives.

Who said it was with their spouse

The poster who said the marriage had separate lives and still have a great sex life indicated they were still having sex with each other in the marriage. Learn to read.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Busy full lives with DCs (divide a conquer except dinners and holiday/family events) and separate hobbies, friends. Great sex life. Works for us.

If you are still having great sex, you are not living separate lives.

Who said it was with their spouse

Anonymous wrote:We're getting a divorce.

Ditto.

Been married almost a decade; we have never had a shared life. It has been awful. We are getting divorced and it is like a huge grey cloud being lifted (we also do not have sex or go on dates and it has been like that 90% or more of the marriage).

Anonymous wrote:Busy full lives with DCs (divide a conquer except dinners and holiday/family events) and separate hobbies, friends. Great sex life. Works for us.

If you are still having great sex, you are not living separate lives.

Busy full lives with DCs (divide a conquer except dinners and holiday/family events) and separate hobbies, friends. Great sex life. Works for us.

We're getting a divorce.

Anyone married under the same roof, but you and your spouse basically let be separate lives? Describe how this pans out in your life.