My 11yo DD also has visible dark hair against lighter skin. I’ve mentioned that she should let me know if she is uncomfortable about it and we can remove it. I also told her that it’s natural and she doesn’t have to attend to it if she doesn’t want to. So far she doesn’t want to remove it. My older DD wasn’t interested in hair removal until just before 9th grade.

I am very hairy and so is DD. We use hair removal cream on her face and started doing it occasionally when she was 8 because it bothered her.

For me, my mother bleached but it looked like blond hair. I find the removal cream to work better and it’s quick. I went for electrolysis when I was through puberty and had laser as an adult. I’ll offer the same to my DD.

Anonymous wrote:You should take her to get it threaded. It will eventually stop growing in.

^^^ I would recommend going to a south asian place, not a swanky spa that has someone there doing threading unless you can find really really good reviews online

You should take her to get it threaded. It will eventually stop growing in.

I recently started waxing my DD's upper lip hair, at her request. I was kind of shocked how much came off! She was feeling pretty self-conscious about it and really feels better now. Not sure what we'll do in the future but this is working right now.

I have light skin and dark hair, and wish I'd done something more permanent a long time ago before my hair started turning white. I've heard laser works best on dark hair against light skin.

Bleaching for now, and electrolysis later when she’s through puberty. I did electrolysis on my upper lip every week for a summer when I was 17 or so, and it thinned it out enough that I haven’t had to worry about it til recently, 25 years later (thanks, perimenopause!)

Anonymous wrote:I hear you. My 11 you DD has hair everywhere. I feel like she is aware of it way too early, and I feel bad for her. She has a mustache, hairy arms, hairy legs. She started shaving underarms and will need to/wants to trim bikini line a little for swim practice. I encourage her to wait on leg shaving, but I wont stop her. I am sure soon she will ask about the mustache. When I was a teen, I did bleaching and at home wax strips. Mother took me for some sort of electrical removal, but it hurt and did not work. Other options?

I was that 11 yr. old girl. Dark hair (everywhere) and fair skin, so very noticeable. Kids started to point it out around that age and I was miserable. My mom was so helpful to me. She is blonde, so had no experience with it, but she did everything she could for me. We started with bleach on the arms and upper lip and she showed me how to shave my legs and underarms. When I was in high school, she took me to get underarms and bikini line waxed. And finally, about ten years ago, I decided to laser off the bikini line, underarms, and legs. I had electrolysis on the upper lip, not laser. IT WAS LIFE CHANGING. When all of the sessions were over (about four months), I realized how much of my life I had spent on hair removal.

But back to the 11 yr. old me - we didn't have laser back then (80s), so bleach and shaving were pretty much my only options. For the OP's daughter, you could take her to get waxed, but it's painful and she might be too young for that. I would stick to shaving and bleaching and maybe Nair, as another PP suggested. As long as you show her you are in her corner and will do whatever you can do help her manage this issue, she will never forget it. GL!

Anonymous wrote:Take her to the doctor to get a referral to an endocrinologist or OBGYN for possible PCOS.

For people like me, Indian orig in, it is common and not some hormonal problem. My daughter is half white and has dark skin, light hair.

Take her to the doctor to get a referral to an endocrinologist or OBGYN for possible PCOS.

I hear you. My 11 you DD has hair everywhere. I feel like she is aware of it way too early, and I feel bad for her. She has a mustache, hairy arms, hairy legs. She started shaving underarms and will need to/wants to trim bikini line a little for swim practice. I encourage her to wait on leg shaving, but I wont stop her. I am sure soon she will ask about the mustache. When I was a teen, I did bleaching and at home wax strips. Mother took me for some sort of electrical removal, but it hurt and did not work. Other options?

Anonymous wrote:Is it dark hair, OP?

Sorry reread above. It's late, I'm tired.

Is it dark hair, OP?

Professional wax.

I’ve used sally Hansen wipe off depilatory crime on my younger daughter. You have to be careful about timing and watch the clock, but it works. Jolen can work. Depending on her age, you may want to take her to get laser ortheother kind of removal (I forget the name)?

My teen DD has a little facial hair. She has dark hair so it’s noticeable although she hasn’t complained about it yet. Any advice for what route I should advise for a 14 year old?