Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful FWB. We're going on 8 months now. I'm a full-time single mom, busy professional, etc. so this suits my lifestyle and my desires at the moment. It's uncharted territory for me but in his case, it has been a more common arrangement. He mentioned a former FWB who he saw off and on for 4 years.

We’re honest, open, safe, considerate and respectful of each other’s time (setting up our dates in advance and never cancelling on each other etc.). We never explicitly established any rules but I think have understood them implicitly in a way that works for both of us. We don’t see each other very regularly (it was around once a week during the summer when my son was away, now it’s once every 2-3 weeks), don’t spend time together outside of our sex dates (so I don’t even know if FWB is the right term – maybe lover rather?), don’t do sleepovers (except for once over the summer, but it was inadvertent) and don’t communicate much in between other than to set up our next dates, an occasional friendly hello/joke sharing and a bit of fun sexting every now and then. We’ve never met each other’s friends…hell we barely even know each other’s last names! Yet the time we spend together is divine – generally our dates are 5-6 hour champagne-filled sex romps, filled with lovely and deep conversation (sharing some very personal things), great takeout and THE.BEST.DAMN.SEX.I’VE.EVER.HAD in my life! Lol!

On my end, I know that the keys to not "catching feelings" as often seems to happen in these situations have been these implicit rules and also being mindful of all the deal breakers he comes with – we’re in very different phases in our lives, have very different lifestyles and different values in many regards. Yet I love the time we spend together and hope it will continue in the way it has, until one of us meets someone “serious”.

Anonymous wrote:I am busy - in a rigorous graduate program, raising two kids under five, and working twenty hours a week. I’m not in a good place to get into anything serious, and have an arrangement that works for me. I’ve been in an ambiguous (duh) FWB situation for about six months and want to define it as we move forward. Not turn it into a committed relationship, but establish boundaries and ground rules. How to go about? If you’ve BTDT, I’d appreciate the feedback.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful FWB. We're going on 8 months now. I'm a full-time single mom, busy professional, etc. so this suits my lifestyle and my desires at the moment. It's uncharted territory for me but in his case, it has been a more common arrangement. He mentioned a former FWB who he saw off and on for 4 years.

We’re honest, open, safe, considerate and respectful of each other’s time (setting up our dates in advance and never cancelling on each other etc.). We never explicitly established any rules but I think have understood them implicitly in a way that works for both of us. We don’t see each other very regularly (it was around once a week during the summer when my son was away, now it’s once every 2-3 weeks), don’t spend time together outside of our sex dates (so I don’t even know if FWB is the right term – maybe lover rather?), don’t do sleepovers (except for once over the summer, but it was inadvertent) and don’t communicate much in between other than to set up our next dates, an occasional friendly hello/joke sharing and a bit of fun sexting every now and then. We’ve never met each other’s friends…hell we barely even know each other’s last names! Yet the time we spend together is divine – generally our dates are 5-6 hour champagne-filled sex romps, filled with lovely and deep conversation (sharing some very personal things), great takeout and THE.BEST.DAMN.SEX.I’VE.EVER.HAD in my life! Lol!

On my end, I know that the keys to not "catching feelings" as often seems to happen in these situations have been these implicit rules and also being mindful of all the deal breakers he comes with – we’re in very different phases in our lives, have very different lifestyles and different values in many regards. Yet I love the time we spend together and hope it will continue in the way it has, until one of us meets someone “serious”.

Hah, this sounds like the relationship I have with my AP. We only meet once every few months though, as we live in different cities so we only meet with work travel means we're in the same place at the same time.

Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful FWB. We're going on 8 months now. I'm a full-time single mom, busy professional, etc. so this suits my lifestyle and my desires at the moment. It's uncharted territory for me but in his case, it has been a more common arrangement. He mentioned a former FWB who he saw off and on for 4 years.

We’re honest, open, safe, considerate and respectful of each other’s time (setting up our dates in advance and never cancelling on each other etc.). We never explicitly established any rules but I think have understood them implicitly in a way that works for both of us. We don’t see each other very regularly (it was around once a week during the summer when my son was away, now it’s once every 2-3 weeks), don’t spend time together outside of our sex dates (so I don’t even know if FWB is the right term – maybe lover rather?), don’t do sleepovers (except for once over the summer, but it was inadvertent) and don’t communicate much in between other than to set up our next dates, an occasional friendly hello/joke sharing and a bit of fun sexting every now and then. We’ve never met each other’s friends…hell we barely even know each other’s last names! Yet the time we spend together is divine – generally our dates are 5-6 hour champagne-filled sex romps, filled with lovely and deep conversation (sharing some very personal things), great takeout and THE.BEST.DAMN.SEX.I’VE.EVER.HAD in my life! Lol!

On my end, I know that the keys to not "catching feelings" as often seems to happen in these situations have been these implicit rules and also being mindful of all the deal breakers he comes with – we’re in very different phases in our lives, have very different lifestyles and different values in many regards. Yet I love the time we spend together and hope it will continue in the way it has, until one of us meets someone “serious”.

Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful FWB. We're going on 8 months now. I'm a full-time single mom, busy professional, etc. so this suits my lifestyle and my desires at the moment. It's uncharted territory for me but in his case, it has been a more common arrangement. He mentioned a former FWB who he saw off and on for 4 years.

We’re honest, open, safe, considerate and respectful of each other’s time (setting up our dates in advance and never cancelling on each other etc.). We never explicitly established any rules but I think have understood them implicitly in a way that works for both of us. We don’t see each other very regularly (it was around once a week during the summer when my son was away, now it’s once every 2-3 weeks), don’t spend time together outside of our sex dates (so I don’t even know if FWB is the right term – maybe lover rather?), don’t do sleepovers (except for once over the summer, but it was inadvertent) and don’t communicate much in between other than to set up our next dates, an occasional friendly hello/joke sharing and a bit of fun sexting every now and then. We’ve never met each other’s friends…hell we barely even know each other’s last names! Yet the time we spend together is divine – generally our dates are 5-6 hour champagne-filled sex romps, filled with lovely and deep conversation (sharing some very personal things), great takeout and THE.BEST.DAMN.SEX.I’VE.EVER.HAD in my life! Lol!

On my end, I know that the keys to not "catching feelings" as often seems to happen in these situations have been these implicit rules and also being mindful of all the deal breakers he comes with – we’re in very different phases in our lives, have very different lifestyles and different values in many regards. Yet I love the time we spend together and hope it will continue in the way it has, until one of us meets someone “serious”.

Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful FWB. We're going on 8 months now. I'm a full-time single mom, busy professional, etc. so this suits my lifestyle and my desires at the moment. It's uncharted territory for me but in his case, it has been a more common arrangement. He mentioned a former FWB who he saw off and on for 4 years.

We’re honest, open, safe, considerate and respectful of each other’s time (setting up our dates in advance and never cancelling on each other etc.). We never explicitly established any rules but I think have understood them implicitly in a way that works for both of us. We don’t see each other very regularly (it was around once a week during the summer when my son was away, now it’s once every 2-3 weeks), don’t spend time together outside of our sex dates (so I don’t even know if FWB is the right term – maybe lover rather?), don’t do sleepovers (except for once over the summer, but it was inadvertent) and don’t communicate much in between other than to set up our next dates, an occasional friendly hello/joke sharing and a bit of fun sexting every now and then. We’ve never met each other’s friends…hell we barely even know each other’s last names! Yet the time we spend together is divine – generally our dates are 5-6 hour champagne-filled sex romps, filled with lovely and deep conversation (sharing some very personal things), great takeout and THE.BEST.DAMN.SEX.I’VE.EVER.HAD in my life! Lol!

On my end, I know that the keys to not "catching feelings" as often seems to happen in these situations have been these implicit rules and also being mindful of all the deal breakers he comes with – we’re in very different phases in our lives, have very different lifestyles and different values in many regards. Yet I love the time we spend together and hope it will continue in the way it has, until one of us meets someone “serious”.

Anonymous wrote:I am busy - in a rigorous graduate program, raising two kids under five, and working twenty hours a week. I’m not in a good place to get into anything serious, and have an arrangement that works for me. I’ve been in an ambiguous (duh) FWB situation for about six months and want to define it as we move forward. Not turn it into a committed relationship, but establish boundaries and ground rules. How to go about? If you’ve BTDT, I’d appreciate the feedback.