Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 01:03     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Anonymous wrote:If it was Prosecco at brunch, would you feel any different?


NP here. Every Saturday? Before 10am? That’s still a red flag.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 00:45     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
If it was Prosecco at brunch, would you feel any different?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 00:44     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
It matters because I don't want to be married to a drunk, raising my kids with a drunk and my kids to have a drunk for a parent.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 00:38     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Find an AlAnon meeting and go as previous poster said
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 00:38     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
It gets worse before it gets better, if ever. And even better is rare.

Please get out if you can, ASAP.

If you love him, you'll leave.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 00:32     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Seriously...start videotaping him drunk
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2019 00:22     Subject: Re:Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
It got me thinking...how do you explain other than “it’s not healthy/normal”....and why am I having to explain this?!
I did say that I will not expose my kids to this. He said, “oh so you won’t expose them to a loving father? Great idea”.....I weirdly kind of see where he is coming from with that one. I mean I don’t fear for their safety, I just do not think the drinking is anywhere near an acceptable level.


he's attacking you because he's scared you'll take away the drink and because drinking makes him mean.

The answer is "I will not expose my kids to an alcoholic parent who starts drinking at 10 am on a Saturday morning and thinks its acceptable. Or who drinks every night from the time he gets home to sleep. or who treats badly because of his drinking."
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 23:17     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
"Why does it matter" is not an answer. it is stone-walling, deflecting, non-response. And it never stops.

Dump him.
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 23:02     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Daily drinking leads to chronic medical issues, which significantly negatively impacts your family. Also, the fact he cannot pass time without alcohol is troubling.

No child wants to grow up seeing a drunk dad.

Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 22:56     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
2 beers by 10am! Drinking for several hours every evening? Defensiveness? Huge red flags.

Tell your DH that most loving fathers don’t need beer to spend time with their kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 22:42     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Alonon.
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 22:40     Subject: Re:Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Does he drink everyday? It’s sad that he drinks every time it’s “family time.”
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 22:37     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
This is happening in our house too - I’m the only one who sees DH’s drinking as a problem, hence I am the one with a problem, from his perspective.



Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 22:24     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
Right there with you!!
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2019 22:14     Subject: Answer for “why does it matter?” (Drinking)
DH and I have been fighting about his drinking. He has always been a drinker but I think it has escalated.
He starts early in evening and by the time we need to put kids down he is grumpy and impatient. He is also so tired that he doesn’t help me when they wake up at night.
He watched the kids the other weekend morning so I could catch up on sleep. I came downstairs at 10 am and he had already had two beers.
I (understandably) get upset and his response “why does it matter? It’s the weekend” I stared at him with my mouth open...

It got me thinking...how do you explain other than “it’s not healthy/normal”....and why am I having to explain this?!
I did say that I will not expose my kids to this. He said, “oh so you won’t expose them to a loving father? Great idea”.....I weirdly kind of see where he is coming from with that one. I mean I don’t fear for their safety, I just do not think the drinking is anywhere near an acceptable level.

Thoughts? Advice? What can I say?!