You all are giving me good perspectives to consider.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

They're 6th graders... so 11/12yrs.

Pro-tip: Stop referring to the times when your 6th grader gets together with a friend as a “play date.” Your daughter invited a friend over.

Thanks. You're right. "Play date" sounds babyish. Just so used it...

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

They're 6th graders... so 11/12yrs.

Pro-tip: Stop referring to the times when your 6th grader gets together with a friend as a “play date.” Your daughter invited a friend over.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

They're 6th graders... so 11/12yrs.

LOL. No, there was no miscommunication. They totally planned this. I thought you were going to say Sara and your DD were 6.

Thank you for the feedback. Greatly appreciate it.

Oh, they totally planned that on their own. At that age with that plan, I’d think nothing of it if my kid said it was a sleepover.

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

They're 6th graders... so 11/12yrs.

Ask your DD what she actually told Sarah. Kids "organize" bunch of stuff.

I would have said right then and there "Just want to make sure you know the playdate is until X time and not a sleepover." Done.

There was obviously a miscommunication so call the parents to clarify. If you, spouse, and your child are fine with her spending the night, then continue. If you are not, then say so.

That's a lot of activities for a simple playdate. Possibly they heard "movie after dinner" and assumed a sleepover. But I would circle back with the parents anyway just to make sure its not a mixup (i.e. the child brought a blanket and pillow to watch the movie and the parents still assume you are bringing her home.) Yes, its awkward, but better to just have clarity.

I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

If it doesn't conflict with existing plans, I would keep Sara for the sleepover. By the time you do dinner and a movie it will be pretty late anyway. It's possible that after you made the plan, Sara insisted that she was invited for a sleepover-my kid and her friends have done that a few times.

Keep Sara overnight.
The kids won't understand and you will ruin the play date. Sara will think she did something wrong. Next time put everything in writing.

DD and friend Sara talked about a playdate at our house. DD asked us. DH and I discussed it and agreed on day and time. We planned out the playdate... playing, baking, trampoline park, dinner, movie, and drive Sara home. So DH reached out to Sara's dad. Sara and dad arrived. Sara came in carrying her pillow and overnight stuff. DH and DD were surprised and speechless. DH and Sara's dad exchanged greetings and the dad left. I came in the room and was surprised seeing Sara and her stuff.

Did someone plan a sleepover and not tell me???

What would you do?
(1) Go along with the sleepover and say/do nothing
(2) Contact Sara's parents and let them know the miscommunication. Clarify it's a playdate and planned activities and offer a sleepover another time.

Thanks for any feedback!