This was his 'get to know the team' happy hour. I would totally cut him slack for that.

I wouldn't be ok with my DH being totally incapacitated for his morning duties on the regular but once a month or so whatever.

When we were more in this kind of lifestyle DH went out once a week with the team on Thurs or Fri. Usually home anywhere between 8-1am but always up the next day doing his stuff. The really late crazy ones were infrequent, maybe once a month-6 weeks. But honestly I didn't care, I'd get in bed and go to sleep and only half wake up when he crawled in.

He's a grown up, he's not cheating on me, I don't care as long as he's managing his responsibilities.

I don't really care what time he comes home. But I would be LIVID if he tried to get out of morning duties. If you are going out on a weeknight you have to still be ready for the next morning because we both still need to go to work and the kids need to get to preschool. On a weekend night we do switch off in the morning so he could sleep in if he'd gone out with friends the night before. But we talk about that ahead of time and plan for it.

When I go to happy hour with friends I’m home by 9 or 10. Coworkers? No way I’d be out even that late.

Were they welcoming him to the team? All these people having one drink and leaving doesn't sound like much of a welcome at all.

Just depends. Most happy hours are done by 7 but occasionally they role late. Neither my wife nor I care if the other stays out all night.

2x a month? Midnight? Not a big deal whatsoever. We don’t have kids though. He gets up for work at 4:30AM though so we have to be responsible regardless.

I am not big on going out. My co workers go out a few times a month; my husband is a police officer so he doesn’t really do “happy hours” often because their shifts are so weird.

First, we each have no issue with the other going alone.
Second, if we go together and one of us wants to leave the other doesn’t really care. I’ve ubered hone earlier by myself plenty of times. Not a big deal. Same for him.

Nope. Neither DH nor I go regularly. only if it is a very special occassion.

Anonymous wrote:DH went to a happy hour this week as a welcome to the team celebration with his coworkers. He stayed out until almost midnight - which annoyed me because he was hungover the next morning and couldn’t handle drop-offs like he’s normally suppose to with the kids.


He also mentioned his team does this x2 month. Do you/ your significant other go to HH semi regularly (+ have kids) and stay out that late?

If he goes whenever his team goes, this would not fly with me.

My DH doesn't go to hh often maybe once a quarter or someone leaves. He stays out super late but since he does't go often it doesn't bother me.

I'm a more regular hh goer but i'm usually home by 10 or 11. Even on the nights that are later I can always get up and function. Being out late doesn't mean I have to over do it.

Too long. DW happy hours nearly turned into an affair. (Caught when the guy, drunk, sent her a suggestive text and email I saw). Pretty sure that ended it but who knows. I know she stopped going to HH. He is an alcoholic pretty sure.

We do one drink and then leave if it's a work thing. If it's a friend thing we might have two and then go to dinner too, but that's sorted out beforehand.

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Anonymous wrote:Uh, no way. I have no interest in hanging out with coworkers late on a weeknight. I want to get home and be with my DH, have dinner, exercise etc. I go to HH maybe 4x year and am on my way home by 7.

Your industry and position? Income? In my career socializing after work is important for networking. I go to drinks/dinner 3-4x a month when at home. It’s part of the job. I have a salary that hovers between $500k and $1.2 million. That said, I am up st 6 am with the kids. It’ was one night...I’d just tell him have fun but you are on duty in the morning

Jesus. What do you do?

Anonymous wrote:Uh, no way. I have no interest in hanging out with coworkers late on a weeknight. I want to get home and be with my DH, have dinner, exercise etc. I go to HH maybe 4x year and am on my way home by 7.

Your industry and position? Income? In my career socializing after work is important for networking. I go to drinks/dinner 3-4x a month when at home. It’s part of the job. I have a salary that hovers between $500k and $1.2 million. That said, I am up st 6 am with the kids. It’ was one night...I’d just tell him have fun but you are on duty in the morning

Uh, no way. I have no interest in hanging out with coworkers late on a weeknight. I want to get home and be with my DH, have dinner, exercise etc. I go to HH maybe 4x year and am on my way home by 7.

DH went to a happy hour this week as a welcome to the team celebration with his coworkers. He stayed out until almost midnight - which annoyed me because he was hungover the next morning and couldn’t handle drop-offs like he’s normally suppose to with the kids.


He also mentioned his team does this x2 month. Do you/ your significant other go to HH semi regularly (+ have kids) and stay out that late?