Really, OP?

Pfft. Whatever!

Bragging and bullying are two of the most overused and misused words.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see it as bragging when DS’s friends talk about it. It’s their pool or the place where they take tennis lessons. Sometimes they hang out there and play video games in a room. DS has gone as a guest and had fun, because he was with his friends not because he was at “the club.” We don’t belong and their friends have had fun when they have come over to our house or come with us somewhere. DS asks from time to time if we can join. I don’t feel bad for saying no. It’s natural for kids to want to go to whereever their friends are hanging out.

And I’ve neber heard the kids say the club. They call it by the name.

I don’t see it as bragging when DS’s friends talk about it. It’s their pool or the place where they take tennis lessons. Sometimes they hang out there and play video games in a room. DS has gone as a guest and had fun, because he was with his friends not because he was at “the club.” We don’t belong and their friends have had fun when they have come over to our house or come with us somewhere. DS asks from time to time if we can join. I don’t feel bad for saying no. It’s natural for kids to want to go to whereever their friends are hanging out.

I've lived in Bethesda for years with two kids in public school and have never heard of this.

Don't generalize, OP. Must be kids talking about a made-up club, a la Calvin and Hobbes.

oooo girl let it go! Kids talk in annoying manners 100 percent of the time. Just focus on cruelty, rudeness and bullying. Don't worry about bragging or other annoying habits.

Training, how is that prestigious? Anyone can probably go if you are a member. I'd be more impressed with a sport you have to compete to get on the team.

I hear “bragging” about sport plays and various other minor things (who has the best video game score) among my son’s 3rd grade friends. I never think their parents encouraged them to act this way.

They should be saying "in da club" instead:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5qm8PH4xAss

Oh and my three Es kids wouldn’t be bragging- it’s just a part of their life that they would talk about like any other. They golf so belong to a golf place. Nothing to brag about that. I think it’s you who seems to let a golf membership change how you feel about a child.

training?

I’m not sure what you would prefer they refer to it as? The country club? By club name? Or just more vague like “see you at the golf place”?

I guess I don’t see any clear cut bragging here. We live near a pretty exclusive country club and aren’t members, but many of the families in our neighborhood and at my kids’ schools are. I don’t find it weird when they talk about events, teams and goings on at the club. My kids are invited to the club pool by friends, and we invite kids to the pool where we have memberships as well. Fun all around. It would feel weird and distancing if the club members pretended that it’s not a part of their lives to somehow spare our feelings, which don’t need to be spared.

It must be a Bethesda thing (I am not from here), but it seems so weird when I hear kids on playdates bragging about "the club". If that is not bad enough Columbia does "training" for 4th graders and so now those kids are obnoxious about who "belongs" and who doesn't. Do you think it's the parents who encourage their kids to act this way?