Anonymous
01/21/2019 00:36
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:If no kids, leave. Why do people stay married if they don't have a family to worry about? What is there to save?
Promises mean something. To some of us.
Anonymous
01/21/2019 00:24
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:If no kids, leave. Why do people stay married if they don't have a family to worry about? What is there to save?
Love. The fear of leaving and being alone. It sucks.
Anonymous
01/21/2019 00:19
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
If no kids, leave. Why do people stay married if they don't have a family to worry about? What is there to save?
Anonymous
01/21/2019 00:06
Subject: Re:Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need a secret lover.
Earworm.
What does this mean?
Anonymous
01/20/2019 23:59
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
The thing is that OP, since you get so little from you, you probably ask for a lot and that pushes him farther away. Meaning when you do see him do you walk about how he is never home or never engaged or how you feel lonely or how he doesn't spend time with you etc. That is only going ot make him spend less time at home.
Whaat you both need is just something fun that you both enjoy. Maybe plan to go to a movie or a play or whatever you like. No discussion of feelings or his work etc. Just have a good time together
Whaat you both need is just something fun that you both enjoy. Maybe plan to go to a movie or a play or whatever you like. No discussion of feelings or his work etc. Just have a good time together
Anonymous
01/20/2019 23:26
Subject: Re:Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:You need a secret lover.
Earworm.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 23:20
Subject: Re:Feeling lonely in my marriage
You need a secret lover.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 09:03
Subject: Re:Feeling lonely in my marriage
big question: do you have children? It doesn't sound like it.
now, does he have to work till 11 every night or does he choose to? and if he 'has' to, what are alternatives to this job or career an would he be willing to change in order to create time and energy for marriage?
I would give it one shot in marriage counseling (assuming no kids), in which you state your need for connection and intimacy and how you have been feeling (which is normal and the bedrock of a marriage). if he can't work won't, I would separate. Life is too long to live like that. Its better to be single and lonely that in that kind of space.
now, does he have to work till 11 every night or does he choose to? and if he 'has' to, what are alternatives to this job or career an would he be willing to change in order to create time and energy for marriage?
I would give it one shot in marriage counseling (assuming no kids), in which you state your need for connection and intimacy and how you have been feeling (which is normal and the bedrock of a marriage). if he can't work won't, I would separate. Life is too long to live like that. Its better to be single and lonely that in that kind of space.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 07:21
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
Has it always been this way or is this a recent thing?
Anonymous
01/20/2019 06:49
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
You need to say this to him, OP. You need to ask him if he's willing to change. Do the two of you have children? Is marriage counseling an option?
Anonymous
01/20/2019 05:06
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:GET down aon your hands and knees and hewill do the restAnonymous wrote:I feel so alone in my marriage. I probably see my spouse for 1 hour a day as he comes home at 10:30 or 11 pm.
On weekends he is exhausted so he sleeps in late and then spends the day zoned out playing video games.
Our sex life has been non existent.
At night I go to bed while husband is up playing video games.
I am so depressed and alone.
First, your husband is probably not in a great place emotionally either, so you can’t really depend on him to help you feel better. Look at what you wrote: he works long hours, only has video games as an outlet, and doesn’t have a good sex life. This is not a recipe for a happy emotionally engaged man, ok? He is probably depressed but that doesn’t mean YOU have to be depressed. You can’t use your spouse as an emotional crutch because they will not always be healthy or emotionally available. We all have bad times in our lives and when we break down our spouses can’t beeak down too. You can lift yourself out of this funk or dump your husband and still be in a funk. Do things that you like to do, even if you are doing them by yourself. Invite DH to participate in activities but if he doesn’t want to it’s ok. Do you have a social life? Friends? Hobbies? Spend time on those things. If DH sees that you are enjoying your life he might decide to do them with you. And if he doesn’t, that’s a problem you can deal with later.
Just work on making yourself feel better first.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 02:07
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:I feel so alone in my marriage. I probably see my spouse for 1 hour a day as he comes home at 10:30 or 11 pm.
On weekends he is exhausted so he sleeps in late and then spends the day zoned out playing video games.
Our sex life has been non existent.
At night I go to bed while husband is up playing video games.
I am so depressed and alone.
First, your husband is probably not in a great place emotionally either, so you can’t really depend on him to help you feel better. Look at what you wrote: he works long hours, only has video games as an outlet, and doesn’t have a good sex life. This is not a recipe for a happy emotionally engaged man, ok? He is probably depressed but that doesn’t mean YOU have to be depressed. You can’t use your spouse as an emotional crutch because they will not always be healthy or emotionally available. We all have bad times in our lives and when we break down our spouses can’t beeak down too. You can lift yourself out of this funk or dump your husband and still be in a funk. Do things that you like to do, even if you are doing them by yourself. Invite DH to participate in activities but if he doesn’t want to it’s ok. Do you have a social life? Friends? Hobbies? Spend time on those things. If DH sees that you are enjoying your life he might decide to do them with you. And if he doesn’t, that’s a problem you can deal with later.
Just work on making yourself feel better first.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 01:54
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
What do you do to get positive things happen in your life?
Go for a walk, enjoy some fresh air and do some meditation. Evaluate your situation. Would you be better off alone? Maybe yes maybe no. It is your choice alone.
Go for a walk, enjoy some fresh air and do some meditation. Evaluate your situation. Would you be better off alone? Maybe yes maybe no. It is your choice alone.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 01:48
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
Anonymous wrote:I feel so alone in my marriage. I probably see my spouse for 1 hour a day as he comes home at 10:30 or 11 pm.
On weekends he is exhausted so he sleeps in late and then spends the day zoned out playing video games.
Our sex life has been non existent.
At night I go to bed while husband is up playing video games. HAVE HIM PUT AWAY HIS GAME JOY STICK AND PLAY WITH HIS JOY STICK SIMPLE
I am so depressed and alone.
Anonymous
01/20/2019 01:35
Subject: Feeling lonely in my marriage
I feel so alone in my marriage. I probably see my spouse for 1 hour a day as he comes home at 10:30 or 11 pm.
On weekends he is exhausted so he sleeps in late and then spends the day zoned out playing video games.
Our sex life has been non existent.
At night I go to bed while husband is up playing video games.
I am so depressed and alone.
On weekends he is exhausted so he sleeps in late and then spends the day zoned out playing video games.
Our sex life has been non existent.
At night I go to bed while husband is up playing video games.
I am so depressed and alone.