Omg. This I why I am hesitant to do nice things for people. No one is capable of accepting them without doing something back. Then I feel like I have burdened the other person. It never ends. And starts to feel like a competition. Just return it and say thank you.

I kept attempting to fill up a Tupperware and send it back.

But we had a couple of sicknesses come through, and I felt like it was hanging out in my house too long. I put a couple of candy bars on top and gave it back to my neighbor. She’s single/alone and loves chocolate - has a stash in her fridge at all times.

Yes. Clean and empty.

I’ll usually bake homemade chocolate chip cookies and send them back with cookies in them. I just feel like it’s a nice gesture.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I use disposable "tupperware" -- I don't want anyone to have to worry about giving it back.

Same with trays -- I buy nice clear plastic ones at Dollar Tree. No need for the host to keep track, wash and return.

Same.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a South Asian Woman above aged 60, you wouldn't dream of it All others, cleaned and dried with a big thank you.

Ha! my South Asian mom would never return an empty Tupperware! As a result, I have a hard time doing it. I feel really guilty.

My 60+ South Asian mommnever returned Tupperware with food in it. She just returned it clean like everyone else.

This is why I use disposable "tupperware" -- I don't want anyone to have to worry about giving it back.

Same with trays -- I buy nice clear plastic ones at Dollar Tree. No need for the host to keep track, wash and return.

Anonymous wrote:If you are a South Asian Woman above aged 60, you wouldn't dream of it All others, cleaned and dried with a big thank you.

Ha! my South Asian mom would never return an empty Tupperware! As a result, I have a hard time doing it. I feel really guilty.

Usually yes, but because you were sick then no. (But I am of South Asian origin so you may want to ignore me)

I usually return tupperware filled with berries if I know for sure that person likes them, or filled with cookies if there are kids.
Male neighbor got an empty tapperware and 6 pack of his favorite bear when he brought me a small bucket filled with vegs from his garden.

Since you ask, I would send baked goods.

If you are a South Asian Woman above aged 60, you wouldn't dream of it All others, cleaned and dried with a big thank you.

I would just wash it really well and return it to her with a note of genuine appreciation.

Empty and clean with a thank you note.

I had a semi major injury, and a very sweet neighbor brought me two meals. She gave me a pot of homemade chicken noodle soul and chili in her tupperware.
If she were a close friend of mine, I would just buy her lunch a later time, or I would know what to give her as a gift of appreciation.

This person is a friendly neighbor and I’m not sure if I should just return her pot and Tupperware empty or fill it with food, now that I’m well again. TIA.