Anonymous wrote:A nice guy will usually let her finish first.

We're talking about sex, right?

My DH is a nice guy and usually lets me finish first and then last.

A nice guy will usually let her finish first.

We're talking about sex, right?

Anonymous wrote:Chicks dig assholes. So, yeah, nice guys finish last. At least if you're talking about having sex. In other areas, nice guys seem to end up with the better lives.

More realistically "chicks" dig exciting guys, when they are younger. If that guy turns out to be an asshole she might try to put up with that, or change him somewhat, because he's cool and exciting. Also, lots of asshole guys are really good at hiding it at first.

Then there are the guys. Guys dig hot women and will put up with almost anything, including psycho bitch tendencies, to get what they perceive as hot sex, which may or may not be great sex but is at least sex with a hot chick.

So, especially while young, both guys and gals make some really stupid mating decisions.

IMO - Nice girls/guys finish first in solid relationships, last if attracting the masses for romps and escapades.

Assuming there is no glaring underlying psychological dysfunction waiting to emerge, and especially if they are a “total package.” The good ones are snatched up by those with a long term view. Even the assholes like the nice.

I dumped the hot, flashy, loud, cocky boyfriend who went to an Ivy (and abused me and encouraged my eating disorder) and ultimately married a quietly confident man who went to BU. I'm so glad I did.

The exboyfriend ultimately failed out of Yale, was doing a ton of drugs, got hired at his dad's company and then got fired, and hasn't worked since (almost ten years ago).

I have yet to meet a self-described "nice guy" who was actually nice. I don't actually think "chicks dig assholes" but I think a lot of women, when faced with a pool of unpleasant personalities, figure they may as well pick the hottest one since none of them are going to treat her well.

Genuine, kind, thoughtful people do very well. But, there are few of these.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think nice guys finish last.

But they usually don't finish first, either.

If you’re not first you’re last.

I don't think nice guys finish last.

But they usually don't finish first, either.

Anonymous wrote:I think, in relationships, you have to put #1 first. You can be nice to others as long as it makes sense in your own best interest. (In terms of decision making, not necessarily in being polite.)

It took me way too long to figure this out, but, yeah. I'm done caring what anyone else thinks, needs, or wants.

Anonymous wrote:Chicks dig assholes. So, yeah, nice guys finish last. At least if you're talking about having sex. In other areas, nice guys seem to end up with the better lives.

This. Every time.

Chicks dig assholes. So, yeah, nice guys finish last. At least if you're talking about having sex. In other areas, nice guys seem to end up with the better lives.

Unfortunately, as in life in general.

I try to but occasionally I just get too excited and can't hold back.

Oh, wait.....

I think, in relationships, you have to put #1 first. You can be nice to others as long as it makes sense in your own best interest. (In terms of decision making, not necessarily in being polite.)

Thoughts?

Who did you rather date?

The one who made you chase or the nice person