Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 16:16     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My SIL snoops in personal areas of our home, like drawers, medicine chest, mail. I have caught her a few times and asked her what she is looking for and she seems oblivious that she is doing something wrong. I have asked her not to do it but it continues. I would never leave her to babysit. If you snoop, why do you?


Why do you continue to allow her into your home?


Unfortunately SIL came with my DH family- package deal. She is a social worker and I wonder if she is up in people business as a job that does it without consciousness. SIL also asks personal questions, how much is in your 401k, student loan, mortgage, salaries. And then on the other side she gossips about other peoples personal business so I know she blabs our business.


Hopefully, you've learned to keep your mouth shut. I would be on her the entire time she was in my home.


I don't feed her personal information but sometimes she provokes me with loaded questions like "Didn't you guys have to take a second mortgage out to pay the $10k orthodontist bill ? No we don't have a second mortgage and the orthodontist bill was only $5k - so she gets the info by baiting me. It's so violating.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:54     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I snoop it's not medicine cabinets or drawers. I will peek my head into open rooms on my way simply because I am interested in decor.

I am totally uninterested by whatever health, financial, sexual, or other information I might glean. Life is long and complex. If you need a tube of lube or an antidepressant to get through it, whatever.


Why would you not ask your hosts for a tour, mentioning that you love their downstairs and love decor, would they mind?


I do! More like, I am going up to get my coat from the study and will poke my head in the dining room on the way. That sort of thing. I wouldn't go into a bedroom.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:54     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?

Yes, but I have afflicted family members and don't mind when they snoop - I have nothing to hide. They can see how messy my bedrooms and cupboards are, they can be horrified at my hoarder's basement, they can parse through every tax return and medical paper they want. There are so many complicated things in there it will blow their minds
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:52     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My SIL snoops in personal areas of our home, like drawers, medicine chest, mail. I have caught her a few times and asked her what she is looking for and she seems oblivious that she is doing something wrong. I have asked her not to do it but it continues. I would never leave her to babysit. If you snoop, why do you?


Why do you continue to allow her into your home?


Unfortunately SIL came with my DH family- package deal. She is a social worker and I wonder if she is up in people business as a job that does it without consciousness. SIL also asks personal questions, how much is in your 401k, student loan, mortgage, salaries. And then on the other side she gossips about other peoples personal business so I know she blabs our business.


Hopefully, you've learned to keep your mouth shut. I would be on her the entire time she was in my home.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:51     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
I have always thought it would be interesting (but also a big mess) to put marbles in the medicine cabinet during parties to see if people snoop.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:50     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My SIL snoops in personal areas of our home, like drawers, medicine chest, mail. I have caught her a few times and asked her what she is looking for and she seems oblivious that she is doing something wrong. I have asked her not to do it but it continues. I would never leave her to babysit. If you snoop, why do you?


Why do you continue to allow her into your home?


Unfortunately SIL came with my DH family- package deal. She is a social worker and I wonder if she is up in people business as a job that does it without consciousness. SIL also asks personal questions, how much is in your 401k, student loan, mortgage, salaries. And then on the other side she gossips about other peoples personal business so I know she blabs our business.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:44     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:When I snoop it's not medicine cabinets or drawers. I will peek my head into open rooms on my way simply because I am interested in decor.

I am totally uninterested by whatever health, financial, sexual, or other information I might glean. Life is long and complex. If you need a tube of lube or an antidepressant to get through it, whatever.


Why would you not ask your hosts for a tour, mentioning that you love their downstairs and love decor, would they mind?
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:40     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
When I snoop it's not medicine cabinets or drawers. I will peek my head into open rooms on my way simply because I am interested in decor.

I am totally uninterested by whatever health, financial, sexual, or other information I might glean. Life is long and complex. If you need a tube of lube or an antidepressant to get through it, whatever.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:36     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I snoop because I’m nosy and curious.

But, knowing this about myself, I hide anything in my house that I wouldn’t want another snooper to see.


New Year's resolution for ya: stop being an immature asshole. No one likes a snoop.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:34     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Sometimes I snoop because I’m nosy and curious.

But, knowing this about myself, I hide anything in my house that I wouldn’t want another snooper to see.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:28     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:My SIL snoops in personal areas of our home, like drawers, medicine chest, mail. I have caught her a few times and asked her what she is looking for and she seems oblivious that she is doing something wrong. I have asked her not to do it but it continues. I would never leave her to babysit. If you snoop, why do you?


Why do you continue to allow her into your home?
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:19     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Put little notes in the places where she snoops: “Hey, Larla, stop being an @sshole and stop snooping!” and similar. Or just lock all the rooms where you don’t want her to enter and snoop. And if she’s dumb enough to ask you why the door is locked, tell her it’s “because of the snooping” and stare pointedly at her.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:15     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Anonymous wrote:My SIL snoops in personal areas of our home, like drawers, medicine chest, mail. I have caught her a few times and asked her what she is looking for and she seems oblivious that she is doing something wrong. I have asked her not to do it but it continues. I would never leave her to babysit. If you snoop, why do you?


People are nosy, but not necessarily for any particular purpose.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:15     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
Of course it is super rude to snoop. I would never.

And unlike you, I have a spine, so the snooper would not be invited back to my home, to babysit or otherwise.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 15:12     Subject: Is it super rude to snoop?
My SIL snoops in personal areas of our home, like drawers, medicine chest, mail. I have caught her a few times and asked her what she is looking for and she seems oblivious that she is doing something wrong. I have asked her not to do it but it continues. I would never leave her to babysit. If you snoop, why do you?