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Anonymous wrote:Op here - I wouldn’t be offended for something small, not that kind of person. I actually like that kind of thing and prefer it over something expensive. I didn’t specifically say - get me x - but is that necessary? Genuine question, I feel like I do 99% when it comes to holidays. Do I also have to handle my own gift?

No, you handle things you want or need yourself. Go out and buy. Why do you have to create unnecessary drama?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is the same way. I get him all the stuff he wants and I get nothing for either holiday. That's ok... time to hit the after holiday clearances.

How is this in any way acceptable? I don’t get this at all. What is going through his mind?

Awful. I can’t imagine.

My husband is the same way. I get him all the stuff he wants and I get nothing for either holiday. That's ok... time to hit the after holiday clearances.

Unless he was raised as a Jehovah Witness or in some other non-gifting culture-he sucks. If he didn't want to exchange gifts, it's fine to discuss that in agreement. But just to get you nothing is so lazy. I don't do gifts with the person I'm dating, but I think you are reasonable to expect that he would get you something for Christmas. Unnecessary drama would be complaining because he bought you the wrong car-expecting a token gift is not too much to ask.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I wouldn’t be offended for something small, not that kind of person. I actually like that kind of thing and prefer it over something expensive. I didn’t specifically say - get me x - but is that necessary? Genuine question, I feel like I do 99% when it comes to holidays. Do I also have to handle my own gift?

No, you handle things you want or need yourself. Go out and buy. Why do you have to create unnecessary drama?

I got Henkels knives that he wanted.

Op here - I wouldn’t be offended for something small, not that kind of person. I actually like that kind of thing and prefer it over something expensive. I didn’t specifically say - get me x - but is that necessary? Genuine question, I feel like I do 99% when it comes to holidays. Do I also have to handle my own gift?

This link goes with the above post

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages

I think some people just don’t get gifts and gift giving. There was that book that used to be very popular about “love languages” - gift giving is some peoples’ love lanuguage but not other peoples’. Does he show he cares for you in other ways?

DH is a bad gift-giver, so I'd be relieved....and buy myself what I really wanted.

I think you should have told him you wanted something for Xmas.

Some people aren’t into gifts. Did he ask you to give them to him? Did you say you wanted some cheap and little things? Some people would think that’s insulting and prefer he didn’t.

It’s not about getting stuff, I was just hoping for some lotion for my purse, a fun chocolate bar, or some small token thing I could unwrap while everyone else opened presents. I got him a few things he opened earlier this month (we also celebrate Hanukkah) so it’s not like we had a zero gifts thing going. I guess I’m just hurt he didn’t take time to get even a small treat since I did all the shopping, prepping and wrapping for both holidays. What do you think DCUM?