That’s frustrating, OP. Be clear to DH that next time you will not cave — and then don’t.

All presents are labeled with the recipients first name by either dh or me depending on who is wrapping/doing the gift tags.

I’m so confused. Why would you die of shame?

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am with you. I tried to get DH to handle his mother’s gift this year. I ended up ordering something online for in-store pickup today (yes I went to the mall on Christmas Eve) b/c DH half assed it and ordered something from Amazon that won’t arrive until Wednesday.
MIL is a nice lady and I don’t want her to be the only one without a gift tomorrow.

But he went with you to the mall, right? If not what was he doing?

OP, I am with you. I tried to get DH to handle his mother’s gift this year. I ended up ordering something online for in-store pickup today (yes I went to the mall on Christmas Eve) b/c DH half assed it and ordered something from Amazon that won’t arrive until Wednesday.
MIL is a nice lady and I don’t want her to be the only one without a gift tomorrow.

I'm sympathetic, OP. Don't worry about it - you brought Christmas joy to your MIL, at the cost of not forcing your spouse to be a thoughtful adult. Worth a deep conversation after Christmas, but probably not the hill to die on.

I would say, "I'm really frustrated with how this worked out, and we need to talk about it on the 26th." And then do talk about it, and don't pull punches. I had to be very blunt with DH about how unattractive certain behavior was before he got it.

For his mother or your mother?

What could possible be the excuse for losing his sh-t at you?? You told him it was his responsibility this year and he didn’t do it. I’m genuinely curious how he spins this problem as your fault.

Huh?

What is shameful about this? At least how is this YOUR failure?

Life goes on, everything will be ok

Consider it your gift to your MIL that you pick it and wrap it, but he writes the tag.

Less eggnog.

Why is this shameful?

I would die of shame if a Christmas present for my mother were labeled with her first name, in DH’s handwriting, and clearly picked by him. And yet herecwe are, because I told him in November that her present was on him and this morning he lost his sh-t because he had t picked anything and I caved...