Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

My guess is you’re a narcissist. Stop focusing on what you see in the mirror.

The vast majority of women in this area are plain or plain minus. They find their nerd counterparts.

I agree that it's your self-esteem that's getting in your way. People meeting me for the first time would never call me attractive. I didn't have a boyfriend until after college. Yet, as I got older and become confident, I started attracting more men - not men I met in bars/clubs, men who actually got to know me.

I had a college roommate that was very pretty. She was very petite, outgoing and fun. But, she actually wasn't very nice. The longer I lived with her, the uglier she got. She attracted a lot of men but none of them were long lived. She's on her 3rd marriage.

Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

You are not invisible honey, you have no self esteem. Might I suggest a coed self defense class, it will boost your self esteem and show a side of you to the opposite sex that you probably aren't even aware exists. It worked for my painfully shy and plain sister, she made many interesting friendships, both male and female, in this class (karate was actually her choice) and met her future husband there as well. You'd be surprised what a little physical fitness and assertiveness will get for you.

Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

It's my grandparent's advice but... find and do activities you actually enjoy, a bit of community grows over time and maybe some connections. Worked for many I know...but later than our 20s and sometimes 30s.

Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

Are you the OP of the other thread? You think you're ugly but you're blond and fit? And your friends say you're a solid 7?

If it's you the answer is the same. Get some therapy and confidence and you'll be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

Not true in my case. I was very beautiful when I was young (I would frequently get approached by modeling agencies) and all of the guys I fell in love with dumped me and married objectively plain (and in one case homely) women. These were all good looking successful guys. Go figure. BTW, before I get flamed, I was also a very kind, sweet and intelligent person. Go figure. In any case, there is obviously hope for you. It seems it isn’t all about looks, unless my exes were all weird anomalies.

Yeah. I’m the cute but chubby one in my family. My DH was dorky looking in our 20’s but has grown into his looks and is objectively attractive now. I see other women checking him out all the time.

My cousin who is one year older than me is truly beautiful. She always had perfect teeth, great smile, beautiful face, long legs, thin with just the right amount of curves. Anytime we were together she would always get so much attention from guys. Fast forward a decade and she’s a single mom struggling as a teacher. I think maybe she felt like she never had to try? Or if she would always have endless opportunities? Whatever it is, she’s still very attractive, but single.

My DH and I work in similar fields and we have two kids. We’re fairly comfortable. I feel like my cousin won the genetic lottery, but I played the hand I was dealt much better. Looks matter, but they’re not everything.

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Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

Not true in my case. I was very beautiful when I was young (I would frequently get approached by modeling agencies) and all of the guys I fell in love with dumped me and married objectively plain (and in one case homely) women. These were all good looking successful guys. Go figure. BTW, before I get flamed, I was also a very kind, sweet and intelligent person. Go figure. In any case, there is obviously hope for you. It seems it isn’t all about looks, unless my exes were all weird anomalies.

Yeah. I’m the cute but chubby one in my family. My DH was dorky looking in our 20’s but has grown into his looks and is objectively attractive now. I see other women checking him out all the time.

My cousin who is one year older than me is truly beautiful. She always had perfect teeth, great smile, beautiful face, long legs, thin with just the right amount of curves. Anytime we were together she would always get so much attention from guys. Fast forward a decade and she’s a single mom struggling as a teacher. I think maybe she felt like she never had to try? Or if she would always have endless opportunities? Whatever it is, she’s still very attractive, but single.

My DH and I work in similar fields and we have two kids. We’re fairly comfortable. I feel like my cousin won the genetic lottery, but I played the hand I was dealt much better. Looks matter, but they’re not everything.

I feel like someone asks this in here once per month...

Celebrities are some of the most beautiful women in the world and look how many of them get divorced, often multiple times. So looks aren’t a guarantee of finding love.

Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?

Not true in my case. I was very beautiful when I was young (I would frequently get approached by modeling agencies) and all of the guys I fell in love with dumped me and married objectively plain (and in one case homely) women. These were all good looking successful guys. Go figure. BTW, before I get flamed, I was also a very kind, sweet and intelligent person. Go figure. In any case, there is obviously hope for you. It seems it isn’t all about looks, unless my exes were all weird anomalies.

Look around there are plenty of unattractive and rude women married.

It’s a myth you have to be attractive or bubbly. It’s a myth you have to be hard to get or men like to chase. Be easy men like easy and go for what’s easy. I’m not talking sex. Identify the guy you want to date and be easier than all the other women around you.

Every pot has a lid. The only time I’ve seen someone habitually single is when they consistently “overshoot” and are only interested in people that are physically out of their league (and rejecting people in their own).

Dig deep and find confidence in your positive personality traits.

Because look around ... not every married woman is attractive. Far from it.

I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust inmen? What if you’re just...invisible?