Anonymous wrote:

We have an 18 year gap.

Suspicious of what, exactly?

Please, OP, entertain us further and pinpoint exactly what your ridiculous thoughts are on this matter.

First marriage?

We have an 18 year gap.

Suspicious of what, exactly?

Please, OP, entertain us further and pinpoint exactly what your ridiculous thoughts are on this matter.

Friends of ours have a 20-year gap. In some ways, I think the bigger issue was that the older partner rushed into marrying a rebound relationship after their previous spouse cheated and ended the first marriage. I think the older partner needed a little more time to regain their footing. Plus, even the adult children from the first marriage don't know about the infidelity, so to them, this new relationship with a much younger person came out of left field and seems much more tawdy and cliche than it really is. Loads of resentment and nastiness. It's really taxed our friends' relationship. I don't know how things will go once the older spouse hits their 60s and 70s. The younger spouse may be totally fed up by that point. Or maybe by then the kids from the first marriage will have succeeded in tearing the marriage apart. Maybe they'll be fine. I hope so.

Anonymous wrote:Is a 30 year age gap and a new baby weird? If the man owns a big house and the woman never really got on her feet, but has kids from other relationships? Asking for a friend.

Age 40 and 70+. Strange?

Throughout my twenties I was mostly attracted to men in their forties. I got older but then men I was attracted to didn’t age as fast it seems. If DH died, I probably would be interested in a man eight years to ten younger.

Is a 30 year age gap and a new baby weird? If the man owns a big house and the woman never really got on her feet, but has kids from other relationships? Asking for a friend.

Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily "suspicious"...but often problematic and unhappy in the long run. When you're both still in the 30-55 range, it can be fine and you don't feel the difference so much. But when the older one gets older, a lot of issues begin to arise and the younger one is generally unhappy

This. It's hard to understand the impact of the age difference when you are younger. I was quite attracted to older men when I was in my 20s - men in their late 30's. But I can't fathom being married to a man in his 60's now that I'm almost 50.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are 7 years apart, which isn't huge but ...

Second marriage for both of us.

I don't consider that huge, fwiw. To me "huge" is much more than 10-12 years

It's just bigger than any age gap I ever thought I'd have.

I post here whenever this comes up. DH is 29 years older than me. It works for us. He has a history of longevity in his family (mid-late 90s). He plays his sport several times a week and we have a very active sex life. This is 2nd marriage for us both. He’s 64

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are 7 years apart, which isn't huge but ...

Second marriage for both of us.

I don't consider that huge, fwiw. To me "huge" is much more than 10-12 years

Whatever works. You just have to be aware that one partner may be alone and what that means if you have kids. Rather a large age difference and a great Love than a mediocre love and close age

Not necessarily "suspicious"...but often problematic and unhappy in the long run. When you're both still in the 30-55 range, it can be fine and you don't feel the difference so much. But when the older one gets older, a lot of issues begin to arise and the younger one is generally unhappy

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My DH and I are 7 years apart, which isn't huge but ...

Second marriage for both of us.

Suspicious? Why or why not?