Anonymous
12/05/2018 15:22
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It was fine the first two years. But since the initial passion wore off and he started working late frequently, I do have doubts. I know what he's capable of. Now I wonder if his ex was crazy because he drove her crazy with his excuses.
She wasn’t crazy. He had to justify his behavior so he misconstrued her actions. “See, she’s nuts so I’m justified in doing...” Then as he gets more distant, angry, lying, etc she gets suspicious and paranoid and that gives him even more of an excuse.
Your gut is telling you he’s cheating. Don’t waste any more time. Get out now!!
Some of the best dating advice is to cut and run when any man tells you his ex is “crazy.” There’s usually a reason she was like that - and he’s usually the reason! In any case, it shows a real immaturity and unwillingness to admit what he did to contribute to the downfall of the relationship. BIG red flag.
+1. In the very rare case that she actually is crazy, he's a guy who willingly sticks his dick in crazy, so something's obviously wrong with him, too.
Anonymous
12/05/2018 11:28
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It was fine the first two years. But since the initial passion wore off and he started working late frequently, I do have doubts. I know what he's capable of. Now I wonder if his ex was crazy because he drove her crazy with his excuses.
She wasn’t crazy. He had to justify his behavior so he misconstrued her actions. “See, she’s nuts so I’m justified in doing...” Then as he gets more distant, angry, lying, etc she gets suspicious and paranoid and that gives him even more of an excuse.
Your gut is telling you he’s cheating. Don’t waste any more time. Get out now!!
Some of the best dating advice is to cut and run when any man tells you his ex is “crazy.” There’s usually a reason she was like that - and he’s usually the reason! In any case, it shows a real immaturity and unwillingness to admit what he did to contribute to the downfall of the relationship. BIG red flag.
And sometimes they are crazy and would have been crazy no matter who their partner was... and that goes for both men and women. On this board, if a man says his ex is crazy, he is gaslighting or exaggerating. If a woman says her ex is crazy, she is just a poor victim of a crazy person.
Anonymous
12/05/2018 11:23
Subject: Re:If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My now DH married his ex when they were 18. While he should’ve divorced her before starting up with me, I don’t worry about him cheating. We’ve been married 25 years. They got married way too young.
Marrying young is not a justification to cheat.
Ok, but it seems to have worked out for the pp.
College sweethearts, my dh and his ex. Polar opposites who should have stopped at college. Family always refers to their relationship as the titanic. And, she’s a nice person. We’ve been married thirty one years, no trust issues, just a better fit personality wise than his first marriage.
Well you got that right. You both are about equal in morals I'm sure.
People who cheat deserve each other
Anonymous
12/05/2018 10:41
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It was fine the first two years. But since the initial passion wore off and he started working late frequently, I do have doubts. I know what he's capable of. Now I wonder if his ex was crazy because he drove her crazy with his excuses.
She wasn’t crazy. He had to justify his behavior so he misconstrued her actions. “See, she’s nuts so I’m justified in doing...” Then as he gets more distant, angry, lying, etc she gets suspicious and paranoid and that gives him even more of an excuse.
Your gut is telling you he’s cheating. Don’t waste any more time. Get out now!!
Some of the best dating advice is to cut and run when any man tells you his ex is “crazy.” There’s usually a reason she was like that - and he’s usually the reason! In any case, it shows a real immaturity and unwillingness to admit what he did to contribute to the downfall of the relationship. BIG red flag.
Anonymous
12/04/2018 06:03
Subject: Re:If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My now DH married his ex when they were 18. While he should’ve divorced her before starting up with me, I don’t worry about him cheating. We’ve been married 25 years. They got married way too young.
Marrying young is not a justification to cheat.
Ok, but it seems to have worked out for the pp.
College sweethearts, my dh and his ex. Polar opposites who should have stopped at college. Family always refers to their relationship as the titanic. And, she’s a nice person. We’ve been married thirty one years, no trust issues, just a better fit personality wise than his first marriage.
Anonymous
12/04/2018 05:59
Subject: Re:If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My now DH married his ex when they were 18. While he should’ve divorced her before starting up with me, I don’t worry about him cheating. We’ve been married 25 years. They got married way too young.
Marrying young is not a justification to cheat.
Not no. No one said it was. She was just answering ops question. This is a conversation not your anger management thread. Go away
Anonymous
12/04/2018 05:57
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Maybe he’s off the hook for child support.
Anonymous
12/04/2018 01:21
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
We don't know that it worked out, maybe he got better at lying. Maybe she's in denial. Maybe he's not bored with her....yet.
Anonymous
12/03/2018 21:59
Subject: Re:If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My now DH married his ex when they were 18. While he should’ve divorced her before starting up with me, I don’t worry about him cheating. We’ve been married 25 years. They got married way too young.
Marrying young is not a justification to cheat.
Ok, but it seems to have worked out for the pp.
Anonymous
12/03/2018 21:53
Subject: Re:If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:My now DH married his ex when they were 18. While he should’ve divorced her before starting up with me, I don’t worry about him cheating. We’ve been married 25 years. They got married way too young.
Marrying young is not a justification to cheat.
Anonymous
12/03/2018 21:50
Subject: Re:If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
My now DH married his ex when they were 18. While he should’ve divorced her before starting up with me, I don’t worry about him cheating. We’ve been married 25 years. They got married way too young.
Anonymous
12/03/2018 21:47
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It was fine the first two years. But since the initial passion wore off and he started working late frequently, I do have doubts. I know what he's capable of. Now I wonder if his ex was crazy because he drove her crazy with his excuses.
She wasn’t crazy. He had to justify his behavior so he misconstrued her actions. “See, she’s nuts so I’m justified in doing...” Then as he gets more distant, angry, lying, etc she gets suspicious and paranoid and that gives him even more of an excuse.
Your gut is telling you he’s cheating. Don’t waste any more time. Get out now!!
This, if he behaved like that when he cheated with you, he is probably cheating on you.
Anonymous
12/03/2018 21:43
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
Anonymous wrote:It was fine the first two years. But since the initial passion wore off and he started working late frequently, I do have doubts. I know what he's capable of. Now I wonder if his ex was crazy because he drove her crazy with his excuses.
She wasn’t crazy. He had to justify his behavior so he misconstrued her actions. “See, she’s nuts so I’m justified in doing...” Then as he gets more distant, angry, lying, etc she gets suspicious and paranoid and that gives him even more of an excuse.
Your gut is telling you he’s cheating. Don’t waste any more time. Get out now!!
Anonymous
12/03/2018 18:25
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
It was fine the first two years. But since the initial passion wore off and he started working late frequently, I do have doubts. I know what he's capable of. Now I wonder if his ex was crazy because he drove her crazy with his excuses.
Anonymous
12/03/2018 10:47
Subject: If you're with someone who left their spouse for you...
How is the trust factor in your relationship? Did it not matter to you? Or do you find yourself wondering sometimes?