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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Not true. Statistically, less than half of all teens are even having intercourse in the first place. Secondly, most of them are using birth control. Third, not everyone gets pregnant the first time they have sex without BC.

A minority of teens get pregnant these days. It's way down from the 80s.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Well the point is she should be proud of her son! Sorry you missed my point. C student perhaps? LOL Jk

Anonymous wrote:Even if you’re not ok with it, what exactly are you going to do about it? Your kid’s not that bright. Oh well.

PP ( not op) I would rather have a B student than a mean person like you. Did you miss the op's point about a chronic illness? There are tons of examples of people who do worse at school and yet are successful at life. Which I think you fail as a human being.

He'll be fine, OP. Dcum provides are really warped view of reality. Half the people who post are either lying or have kids who are so stressed and anxious that they can't function. Parents of happy, high functioning kids aren't posting all over dcum about it.

My oldest (now 29) had a 2.7 GPA when he graduated from high school. He did great in college and beyond and is a college professor at a huge state university. One of my other kids graduated with a 4.45 GPA. National Merit Scholar, blah, blah, blah.....She is a special education teacher who is doing great as well. Good parents understand that grades are just a tiny piece of who their children are. We parent the kids we have and encourage them to be kind, compassionate, human beings above everything else. Your son will be great, OP.

The question to explore is why you are so focused and apparently invested on what you wanted him to be instead of who his is. And frankly, grades are a very, very tiny part of the human picture, and often a part that you have less control over than you may think you do. It is a useless item to be so vested in that you can't be OK with a good kid who has good grades because he isn't a good kid with unusually outstanding grades.

Anonymous wrote:Even if you’re not ok with it, what exactly are you going to do about it? Your kid’s not that bright. Oh well.

You don’t have to be mean, it’s natural for a mother to worry.
FWIW I was a straight A student and my DH barely B student. He out earns me by more x2.

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Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

This is hardly in the same class as the others.

Many of our teens will get or get somebody pregnant. We most likely will never know (Unless you live in Texas or Ohio) but really it's gonna happen.

Define B student... 3.0? 3.6? 2.7?

Oh and either way he will be fine, but can you be more specific?

We have one B (at best) student who, unfortunately (?) has an older sibling who is an academic superstar. I can't help but feel sorry for the younger one because we know how tough it's going to be.

Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

To answer your question: yes I would be fine with that. What is the alternative? Would you banish him from your home? Make sure you apply the rules to yourself. Didn't get a promotion? Can your kids live with this? etc etc.

Being a B student is not the end of the world! It could be much worse...your son could be addicted to drugs or a drug dealer, dying of cancer, get a girl pregnant, killed someone

Count your blessings, op!

Even if you’re not ok with it, what exactly are you going to do about it? Your kid’s not that bright. Oh well.

He will be fine.

If it helps, many of the B students from my rigorous privates are more financially successful than the A students.

Absolutely! No one should be defined solely by their grades. So many other important characteristics for success.

He will be just fine OP.

I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?