Anonymous wrote:As a single parent, I'm not driving the sitter home. Unless I get another sitter for that. And then I would have to get another sitter for that sitter. And an endless recursive drudgery until I collapse.

You might be better off paying a little more for an older sitter with a car. I’m not interested in hanging around in real clothes until 10 pm to go pick up my kid from babysitting, I want to be in pjs at that point.

As a single parent, I'm not driving the sitter home. Unless I get another sitter for that. And then I would have to get another sitter for that sitter. And an endless recursive drudgery until I collapse.

When I babysat growing up, I was responsible for getting myself to the house, and the family I was babysitting for driove me home. It gave them more flexibility in their return time if they were driving me home rather than having to hang out and wait for my mom if they got back 30 minutes early, and didn’t leave my mom sitting in the car twiddling her thumbs if they were 20 minutes late.

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Anonymous wrote:My teen babysitter who does not drive has been babysitting more. I always get her to her jobs, but expect the family who is babysitting to drive her home. One family always seems to expect me to pick her up at the end of the night. I would understand if they ask on occasion if one parent is out of town and the other comes home and does not want to leave young kids alone late at night, but generally if both parents are there shouldn't one of them drive my daughter home?

I've never even thought to have the parents of the sitter pick their kid up.

I, thremom ALWAYS drive home female teen sitters. We also use male sitters and for that it is whomever has not been drinking. My DH won't even take a closed door meeting with a female one on one at work, so there is no way he will ever put himself alone with a teen girl in a car.

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We are the same way.

Anonymous wrote:My teen babysitter who does not drive has been babysitting more. I always get her to her jobs, but expect the family who is babysitting to drive her home. One family always seems to expect me to pick her up at the end of the night. I would understand if they ask on occasion if one parent is out of town and the other comes home and does not want to leave young kids alone late at night, but generally if both parents are there shouldn't one of them drive my daughter home?

I've never even thought to have the parents of the sitter pick their kid up.

I, thremom ALWAYS drive home female teen sitters. We also use male sitters and for that it is whomever has not been drinking. My DH won't even take a closed door meeting with a female one on one at work, so there is no way he will ever put himself alone with a teen girl in a car.

Anonymous wrote:I drive DD both ways. I definitely don't want her alone in a car with a man and I don't want her in a car driveven by someone who has been drinking.

This. And while I don’t have a kid old enough to sit, the sitters I’ve hired have always arranged their own transportation both ways. I have offere. But I also get all that clarified before they work for us.

I drive DD both ways. I definitely don't want her alone in a car with a man and I don't want her in a car driveven by someone who has been drinking.

OP here... sorry... I just reread what I wrote and realize it is rather confusing. I think you all made sense of it, but to be clear my daughter is the babysitter and I was assuming that my job as her parent was to get her to her job, but that the family she babysits for would drive her home. We are a 5- 7 minute drive, but not walkable late at night. Thanks for all of your responses... it seems that it is not as clear cut as I thought!!!

Anonymous wrote:My teen babysitter who does not drive has been babysitting more. I always get her to her jobs, but expect the family who is babysitting to drive her home. One family always seems to expect me to pick her up at the end of the night. I would understand if they ask on occasion if one parent is out of town and the other comes home and does not want to leave young kids alone late at night, but generally if both parents are there shouldn't one of them drive my daughter home?

Depends on the agreement that was made when we arranged the babysitter. I always ask.
When we use a younger sitter, I usually check with the parents before asking the sitter, with those 15 or older I ask and am clear about pick up/drop off. We can pick you up, but do you think your parents can come get you at 11:00, or more frequently, can you get here at 6:00, one of us can bring you home when we get back. I think it's hard for a babysitter to get herself home if he/she doesn't drive or isn't in walking distance. It's not fair to ask their parents to sit home waiting for a text to come get them.

We've also had sitters whose parents have explicitly asked that their daughter be driven home by me and not DH (it's their policy in general, DD not in cars alone w/men) or who have offered to pick them up.

I used to get picked up and dropped off by the dad. I can't imagine letting my DD ride home in a car with a man she barely knows.

DH walks our babysitters home. When they get there, he stands at the driveway and waits until she's gotten inside and closed the door. Generally be brings the dog with them.

I was a little shocked when my daughter babysat for the first time. The mom expected me to drop her off. I didn't realize that was how it works today. The mom did drive her home at the end of the night, but I am think it was only because she lived so far away and I wasn't there to pick her up.

When we were growing up, we paid less than minimum wage. Today baby sitters are paid more than minimum wage.

Growing up, kids' parents always drove me home. As a parent, I've never driven a babysitter home. They either drive, walk or their parents pick them up.

My teen babysitter who does not drive has been babysitting more. I always get her to her jobs, but expect the family who is babysitting to drive her home. One family always seems to expect me to pick her up at the end of the night. I would understand if they ask on occasion if one parent is out of town and the other comes home and does not want to leave young kids alone late at night, but generally if both parents are there shouldn't one of them drive my daughter home?