Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is 10, I’m thinking about it but worried top- will her birth family find us this way (we
are not ready for that )? What was your health outcome? Did you share the reply/answer with your adopted child?

There's something creepy and underhanded about even thinking of doing something so odious.

I'm lost....how is this odious?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I’m mainly interested I. Finding her health background...

This is 13:50. Is she sick? Is there something in particular you are concerned about? Otherwise why not wait to let her decide when she’s an adult? If she wants her health history then she’ll pursue the information.

I'm an adoptee who's done 23 and Me for myself and had considered doing some sort of DNA testing on my adopted child. I decided no. She is not a consenting adult and although health history would be wonderful to have, I just don't think it's our right to do that to a person who can't truly consent. There are lots of privacy issues to consider. In fact, I wish I hadn't done it on myself. I truly understand wanting to know medical background- my sister, also adopted, has had heart surgery and cancer, and clearly knowing a medical history would've been great, but it's not our right to do this for our child.

Why do you wish you hadn't done it on yourself? I've done it and I think it's great.

Anonymous wrote:My DD is 10, I’m thinking about it but worried top- will her birth family find us this way (we
are not ready for that )? What was your health outcome? Did you share the reply/answer with your adopted child?

There's something creepy and underhanded about even thinking of doing something so odious.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I’m mainly interested I. Finding her health background...

Has anything about your health care ever changed based on your own family history?

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I’m mainly interested I. Finding her health background...

That is a huge violation of trust.

Don’t give away your child’s genetic information. She can make that decision when she is an informed adult.

I have thought about it because DD is AA and I would love to know exactly where she is from and be able to tell her when we talk about her roots. AS oppopsed to just saying Africa, being able to say you are from kenya for example.
But for the same reasons as others have posted I have not and will not do it. When she turns 18 it will be her choice.
I am also concerned aabout bio relatives getting involved before she is an adult.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I’m mainly interested I. Finding her health background...

This is 13:50. Is she sick? Is there something in particular you are concerned about? Otherwise why not wait to let her decide when she’s an adult? If she wants her health history then she’ll pursue the information.

I'm an adoptee who's done 23 and Me for myself and had considered doing some sort of DNA testing on my adopted child. I decided no. She is not a consenting adult and although health history would be wonderful to have, I just don't think it's our right to do that to a person who can't truly consent. There are lots of privacy issues to consider. In fact, I wish I hadn't done it on myself. I truly understand wanting to know medical background- my sister, also adopted, has had heart surgery and cancer, and clearly knowing a medical history would've been great, but it's not our right to do this for our child.

I have considered it. We have an open adoption with birth mom's family and are very close to them so I am curious the ancestery beyond what we know. But, I ruled it out as birthfather's family who we know and no longer have contact with are a nightmare. Granted there may be good people on that side but not taking the chance. Our ped. did some genetic testing when a concern came up. I think that's a safer route.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I’m mainly interested I. Finding her health background...

This is 13:50. Is she sick? Is there something in particular you are concerned about? Otherwise why not wait to let her decide when she’s an adult? If she wants her health history then she’ll pursue the information.

Op here- I’m mainly interested I. Finding her health background...

Anonymous wrote:I’m an adoptive mom and I would never do that. When my kids are older they can make that decision for themselves, understanding the risks and benefits. I don’t think I have the right to choose to put their info out there.

I feel the same.

Adoptive or not, I don't think you should be choosing to put someone else's DNA on a public registry. It will be there forever and that's not your choice to make.

I’m an adoptive mom and I would never do that. When my kids are older they can make that decision for themselves, understanding the risks and benefits. I don’t think I have the right to choose to put their info out there.

My DD is 10, I’m thinking about it but worried top- will her birth family find us this way (we
are not ready for that )? What was your health outcome? Did you share the reply/answer with your adopted child?